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Proposing to a Woman who Does not Cover in Hopes of Changing Her – Shaykh Muhammad Firkoos

December 24, 2012 1 comment

Proposing to a Woman who Does not Cover in Hopes of Changing Her
by Shaykh Muhammad Firkoos

Question:

Is it permissible to propose to a woman who prays but does not cover (i.e. she is Mutabarrijah), intending to compel her to wear the Jilbaab after marriage? What is your advice?

Answer:

All the praise is for Allaah the Lord of all that exists. May prayers and peace be upon he whom Allaah sent as a mercy to the creation; upon his family members and companions and his brethren until the Day of Recompense. As to proceed:

It is befitting that the prayer should be a reason for the uprightness of the individual. The Prophet said:

“The first thing which the servant will be called to account for on the Day of Standing is the prayer. If it is sound then the rest of his actions will be sound; if it is corrupt then the rest of his actions will be corrupt.” [1]

The one whom his prayer does not prevent him from lewdness (Al-Fahshaa’) and evil acts (Al-Munkar) then his actions will be deficient. And from Al-Fahshaa’ is At-Tabarruj (not covering or not covering properly). Allaah the Glorified and High has commanded the people to not display their ‘Awraah:

O Children of Adam! Take your adornment (by wearing your clean clothes), while praying. (Al-A’raf 7:31)

And He said:

O Children of Adam! We have bestowed raiment upon you to cover yourselves (screen your private parts, etc.) and as an adornment, and the raiment of righteousness, that is better. Such are among the Ayât (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) of Allaah, that they may remember (i.e. leave falsehood and follow truth). O Children of Adam! Let not Shaytaan (Satan) deceive you, as he got your parents [Adam and Hawwa (Eve)] out of Paradise, stripping them of their raiment, to show them their private parts. Verily, he and Qabîluhu (his soldiers from the Jinn or his tribe) see you from where you cannot see them. Verily, We made the Shayaateen (devils) Auliyâ’ (protectors and helpers) for those who believe not. And when they commit a Fâhisha (evil deed, going round the Ka’bah in naked state, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse, etc.), they say: “We found our fathers doing it, and Allaah has commanded us of it.” Say: “Nay, Allaah never commands of Fâhisha. Do you say of Allaah what you know not? (Al-A’raf 7:26-28)

In the pre-Islamic days of ignorance they would make Tawaaf (around the Ka’bah) naked. So nakedness and uncovering enters into the general meaning of Faahishah. Allaah has commanded the women to cover.

He said:

And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance. (Al-Ahzaab 33:33)

And He, the Most High has said:

O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies. (Al-Ahzaab 33:59)

So if this woman does not comply with the legislative texts commanding to cover and she is not reformed by her prayer to abandon Al-Fahshaa’ (lewdness i.e. not covering) and Munkar (evil), then we do not advise proposing to her. We have no doubt that after the man marries her it will be difficult for him to change her to the path that he sees as correct. The scholars have confirmed the principle: Repelling (evil) takes precedence over elevating (the status of someone etc.). Also because leaving (marrying) her today is better than marrying her then divorcing her or seeking annulment (tomorrow) because she won’t comply with his command. More evil that is that which is feared; that he will come to be in agreement with her desires and fall into sharing (in her sin) and be affected by her Fitnah, then become pleased with the Munkar after it becomes something which he deems to be good; and Allaah is beseeched for help.

And the knowledge is with Allaah. The last of our supplications is: All the praise is for Allaah, and may prayers and peace from Allaah be upon Muhammad, his family, companions, and all those who follow them in goodness until the Day of Recompense.

Footnotes:

[1] At-Tabaraanee in Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat no. 1929; Ad-Diyaa’ Fee Al-Mukhtaar 2/209, from the Hadeeth of Anas ibn Maalik, may Allaah be pleased with him. Al-Albaanee graded it as Saheeh in As-Silsilah As-Saheehah no. 1358 and in Saheeh Al-Jaami’ no. 2573

Translated By: Raha ibn Donald Batts
Source: http://www.sahab.net/forums/index.php?showtopic=134204

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  • The Hijab .. Why ? by Muhammad Bin Ahmad Bin Ismail AL-Mokadam – Translated by Saleh Al-Saleh (rahimahullaah)
    This book list the virtues of a critical aspect of this protection: the HIJAB. The characteristics of the Hijab are discussed, bringing the glad tidings promised (by Allah) to those women adhering to it. It also points out the danger of dazzling displays of ornaments and beauty as well as the terrible repercussions in this life and in the hereafter for those who practice Tabar’roj.
  • Oh Sister covered in Hijab – by Shaik Badr Ali Utaybee hafidahullaah
    Taken from the Book “20 pieces of advice to my sister before her marriage”
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Shaking The Hand Of The Non-Muslim Woman Who Comes Seeking Da’Wah – Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadee

October 24, 2012 Leave a comment

Shaking The Hand Of The Non-Muslim Woman Who Comes Seeking Da’Wah
Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadee (rahimahullaah)

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Question:

Is it permissible to shake the hand of the strange woman who comes for the purpose of accepting Islam; and if one does not shake her hand, then this may have the opposite effect, and she may think that she is (being) belittled; so what does the Muslim do in this situation?

Answer:

It is not permissible to shake her hand due to what At-Tirmidhee narrates in his Jaami’ on the authority of UmaymahbintRuqayqah; she said: Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ said:

“I do not shake hands with women.”

Likewise, due to that which Al-Bukhaaree narrated in his Saheeh on the authority of Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, who said about Allaah’s Messengerﷺ: “By Allaah, his hand never touched the hand of a woman.”

At-Tabaraanee narrated in his Mu’jam from Ma’qil ibn Yassaar, may Allaah be pleased with him, who said: Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ said:

“For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than to touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

What is understood is that this is not from the perspective of belittlement. However, it is a religious matter. Moreover, along with handshaking comes looking and speaking. So it is a must that things be predicated upon a proper foundation. I have mentioned the Hadeeth of Umaymah bint Ruqayqah; in it a woman said: “Will you not shake our hands O Messenger of Allaah, as you shake the hands of the men?” So he said:

“I do not shake the hands with women. My statement to one hundred women is like my statement to one woman.”

And the Prophet ﷺ would recite to them the verse which comes at the end of Soorah Al-Mumtahinah and then he would say to them:

“Are you upon this?”

And they would say: “Yes.”

Source: http://muqbel.net/fatwa.php?fatwa_id=2734

Translated By: Aboo Moosaa Raha ibn Donald Batts
http://mtws.posterous.com

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What’s better? AssalamualiKUM or AssalamulikA (KI)

October 9, 2012 Leave a comment

What’s better? AssalamualiKUM or AssalamulikA (KI} 

Question: Some people say greeting with Assalamualikum is better than greeting with assalamualiki (for a woman) or assalamualika (for a man)? and also people say that if someone greets with assalamualikum, then the angels also reply to the person’s salam (greeting)?  

Answer: Shaykhah answered by saying: Yes, it is better to greet by saying assalamualikum because this is what came in the sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, as for assalamualiki or assalamualika, then it is more specific, (brief). As for the second question: Yes, the angels do reply to the greeting of the person who greets by saying Assalamualikum. Shaykhah mentioned, the hadith on this is found in Adab al-Mufrad of Imam Bukhari.

Question was asked to shaykhah Umm Salamah, Shaykh Muqbil’s wife.

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Women Showing their Feet – Shaikh al-Albaani

October 8, 2012 1 comment

Women Showing their Feet

 Q: “Should a woman cover her feet when she prays?”

Shaikh al-Albaani:

“It is not permissible for her to pray with her feet uncovered, indeed it is not allowed for her to walk in the streets with her feet uncovered, because the feet are part of the `awrah of a woman based on Allaah’s (`azza wa jal) Saying: {And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment}.[1] The woman during the Days of Ignorance used to wear what is known in the Arabic language as khalkhaal (anklet), meaning a bracelet with small bells. So when the woman walked, she in order to turn the men’s attention to her would strike the ground with her feet so the anklet would make a noise and the men would hear that; and such was due to shaitaan`s whisperings to her.

This means that the feet used to be covered. Because of what? Because of the jilbaab that the women were commanded to cast down from over their heads, according to Allaah’s Saying: {O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their outer garments (jilbaabs) close upon themselves}.[2] And it is mentioned in the authentic hadeeth that the Prophet (sallAllaahu `alayhi wa sallam) said one day during a gathering in which there were also women: `Whoever drags his garment out of pride, Allaah will not look at him on the Day of Resurrection. One of the women said: `O Messenger of Allaah, then our feet will be exposed.’ He (`alayhi ssalaam) said: `let (the women) lengthen (their garments) by a hand-span.’ She said: `Then a wind may come and uncover (their feet).’ He (`alayhi ssalaat wa ssalaam) said: `let them add another hand-span, i.e. a cubit, and not go beyond that.’[3] [4]

In this manner, the jilbaab of the Muslim woman at the time of the revelation of the above-mentioned verse: {to draw their outer garments (jilbaabs) close upon themselves} used to cover the feet since the socks that are widespread nowadays among both women and men were not widespread at that time. The woman used to cover her shins and feet with the long jilbaab that resembles the `abaa.ah. Therefore it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to uncover her feet while she is on the street, and it is even more impermissible for her to pray with her feet uncovered.”

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[1] Surat un-Noor 24:31
[2] Surat ul-Ahzaab 33:59
[3] the Shaikh mentioned the general meaning, not the exact wording, of the woman’s speech
[4] Saheeh at-Tirmidhi 1731
 

[silsilat ul-hudaa wa nnoor 697/3-4 / asaheeha translations]

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The woman’s aameen, adhaan and iqaamah

August 23, 2010 Leave a comment

source: silsilat ul-hudaa wa nnoor – the series of guidance and light - tape no. 697

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this is great naseeha (advise) and clarification on some matters of the salaah pertaining to women specifically. may Allaah increase our women in such qualities, aameen. here are the words of shaykh al-albaani (rahimahullaah):

“As for, is it correct for the woman to raise her voice with aameen, then there is a detailed explanation with regard to the question. If she is praying with women, then yes. As for if she is praying with men (and) they are strange men (i.e., non-mahram), then no. Because the voice of a woman, I do not say that it is ‘awrah (something private that should be covered) as many say, because the mothers of the believers and the wives of the first Companions used to speak with men and used to communicate with men, and oftentimes the woman used to come to the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa aalihi wa sallam), and she would ask him (a question) in front of the men, and he (‘alayhi ssalaat wa ssalaam) would answer her question.

But [here], it is not from the good manners of the woman that she raises her voice with the recitation of the Qur’aan. We are often asked – is it permissible for the woman, when she is learning the recitation from a shaykh (who is) a reciter (of the Qur’aan), to repeat to him the recitation in order to [know] how he corrects (it) – no, the answer is no. Although she learns, her learning is restricted to listening only, as learned the women of all the companions from the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) by listening to his recitation during prayer or outside of prayer.

If the woman prays with women while she is an imaam, she raises her voice and the women behind her also raise their voices. That is due to (the Prophet’s) saying, (‘alayhi ssalaat wa ssalaam): ‘Women are nothing but the twin halves of men,’ i.e., every ruling that came in which the men are being addressed, then the women are also included in this address, except what is made an exception. For example, and I ask for (your) attention, it is more excellent for a woman, in other than the taraaweeh prayer, to pray in her house; but on the other hand, it is obligatory upon the man to pray the five prayers in the masjid with the congregation. So here, the woman is different from the man. But the fundamental principle is as (the Prophet) said, (‘alayhi ssalaam): ‘Women are nothing but the twin halves of men.’

So if the woman leads women in prayer as an imaam, she does just as the man does as an imaam. Firstly, she raises her voice with the recitation (of the Qur’aan), and she raises her voice with aameen, and (the women) also raise their voices from behind her with aameen. Secondly, not only does the woman lead women in prayer as an imaam, but she (also) gives the adhaan and the iqaamah. Why? Because of the previous hadeeth: ‘Women are nothing but the twin halves of men.’ Furthermore, asayyida ‘Aaisha, the mother of the believers, and the leader of the mothers of the believers in terms of fiqh (understanding of the religion), knowledge and da’wah, may Allaah bless her and her father, used to give the adhaan and the iqaamah when she led women in prayer as an imaam.

And here there is an admonition which there is no question about – the woman here differs as well from the man, as she does not step up before the row of the women, but rather she stands in the middle as if she is one (of the women) from the row. She does not step up before them [to lead as the man does]; there has come a text regarding this also. Therefore, in this circumstance, the woman is not included in the generality of (the Prophet’s) saying, (‘alayhi ssalaam): ‘Women are nothing but the twin halves of men.’”

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