Found me a Man!
Shaykh ‘Abdul-Qaadir Al-Junayd
There is a problem here in America, O Shaykh, at times a woman from the Muslim women meets a man who is in prison; she begins to deal with him, she visits him, and talks to him on the phone. After love has developed between her and him, she calls the Masjid and says to the Imaam, for example: “I have found a man I want to marry.” And sometimes the man will remain in prison for a long time. So what is your statement and what is your advice about this, O Shaykh, may Allaah bless you?
Firstly, it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to talk to a Kaafir man or Muslim man except if there is a need. If she does talk to him (due to a need) then she talks to him without submissiveness and softness in speech.
Allaah the Majestic and High has forbidden them from that, He said:
فَلَا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ
“Then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire.” (Al-Ahzaab 33:32)
There is no doubt that the speech that is between the male and female Muslim; or between (her and) the foreign man whether he be a Muslim or a Kaafir; that speech with is connected to the affairs of marriage and affairs of love and other than it, all of this is from the soft speech from which Allaah the Glorified and Exalted has prohibited the believing women. Because it makes her submissive and calls her to that which Allaah, the Glorified and Exalted, has prohibited; and (allows for the man) to look at her with the forbidden look. The point is that Allaah has said to all the Muslim women:
فَلَا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلًا مَعْرُوفًا
“Then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner.” (Al-Ahzaab 33:32)
Question posed and translated by: Raha ibn Donald Batts
18 Rajab 1433/June 9, 2012
It is mentioned that when al-Hafidh Ibn Hajr was the chief justice (of Egypt), one day he was passing through the market with a caravan, looking well groomed. So a Jew who was selling hot oil, looking very disheveled and dirty because of the oil, accosted him by grabbing the reins of his mule saying,
“Yaa Shaykhul-Islaam, you claim that your prophet said that the dunyaa is a prison for the mu’min and a jannah for the kaafir; so what type of prison are you in and what type of jannah am I in?“
He (Ibn Hajr) replied,
“Regarding what Allaah has prepared for me in the hereafter from its bliss, then it is as if I am in prison, and with regards to what Allaah has prepared for you in the hereafter from its punishment, then it is as if you are in jannah.”
At which point the Jew became a Muslim.
ذكروا أن الحافظ ابن حجر لما كان قاضي القضاة مر يوما بالسوق في موكب عظيم وهيئة جميلة فهجم عليه يهودي يبيع الزيت الحار وأثوابه ملطخة بالزيت وهو في غاية الرثاثة والشناعة فقبض على لجام بغلته وقال يا شيخ الإسلام تزعم أن نبيكم قال الدنيا سجن المؤمن وجنة الكافر فأي سجن أنت فيه وأي جنة أنا فيها فقال أنا بالنسبة لما أعد الله لي في الآخرة من النعيم كأني الآن في السجن وأنت بالنسبة لما أعد لك في الآخرة من العذاب الأليم كأنك في جنة فأسلم اليهودي
تقصد القصة التي في فيض القدير 3/546 :
Source : http://www.troid.ca , Translated by Hisham Assing
- This world is more insignificant in the eye of Allah as dead lamb – from Sahih Muslim
- The Last Drops of this World – Sayings of the Salaf
- This worldly life is like an unchaste woman – Ibn al Qayyim
- Each of us has a Bank called “T I M E”
- [Audio] Fear The Dunyah – Take Account of Yourself Before You Are Taken Account of – Read the transcribed lecture – by Hasan As-Somaalee
A fiery sermon delivered in Philadelphia, USA pertaining to the danger of attaching oneself to the worldly affairs and falling into sins and disobedience to Allaah.
- The True Nature of Dunya
In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful The Bestower of Mercy
Ibn Abdul Haadee (rahimahullaah) said:
When he [shaikhul Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimahullaah)] entered prison, he found the prisoners pre-occupied with various types of games with which they pass the time, such as chess, backgammon and the likes, of (those things that lead) to neglect of the five daily prayers.
So the Shaikh [Ibn Taymiyyah(rahimahullaah)] severely disapproved of that from them. He commanded them to adhere to the five daily prayers and to turn to Allaah through performance of righteous deeds, glorification of Allaah, seeking forgiveness for their sins and supplication.
He made them acquainted with what they were in need of from the Sunnah. He awakened their desire for it and urged them towards it, until a lot of good came about in the prison due to that which was (present) in it of pre-occupation with knowledge and the Religion better than many of the small prayer rooms, the hospices, the places where people secluded themselves for worship and the schools. And it became (such) that many amongst the prisoners chose to remain with him (Ibn Taymiyyah) after they were released, and those returning to the prison became so numerous that it became filled with them.
[Al-Uqood Ad-Du’riyyah Fee Dhikri Manaaqib Shaikhul Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah 330-331]
Translated by: Abu Mu-aawiyyah (Abdullaah Al-Gambi)
- The story of the young Ibn Taymiyyah (salaf-us-saalih.com)