The questioner asks about verbally giving the Salaams (to women).
Shaykh Muqbil: Verbally giving the Salaam, if she and he are safe from Fitnah, then there is no harm in him saying: As-Salaamu Alaykum. If he fears that the Salaam will lead to that which is after it from Fitnah, then no. As is said:
نظرة فإبتسامة فسلام فكلام فموعد فلقاء
A look; then a smile; then Salaams; then speaking; then (setting) an appointment; then a meeting
So if he does not fear Fitnah for himself and he does not fear for her then there is no harm in saying: As-Salaamu Alaykum. The wives of the Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) used to be greeted with Salaam. And Allaah’s Aid is sought.
Questioner: Does this apply to responding, as well, O Shaykh?
Questioner: Is responding to As-Salaamu Alaykum obligatory upon the woman?
Shaykh: Upon the woman, yes, she is to respond. The same applies to her; if she fears Fitnah for herself or that she will put the man to trial then she responds within herself. Or she moves her lips with some sound (coming out) such that he does not hear her. But if she does not fear (Fitnah) for herself or he is a Mahram for her, then there is no harm in her saying: Wa Alaykum As-Salaam. However, if she fears the occurrence of Fitnah, then there is nothing equivalent to the safety of the heart.
Translated By: Raha ibn Donald Batts
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Our Shaykh, the Muḥaddith of the Lands of Yemen, Abū Abd al-Raḥmān Muqbil ibn Hādī al-Wādi’ī (رحم الله) said:
“So it was the calamities and the advice from those who love the Da’wah that drove me to have kindness and to not keep up with the enemies, who don’t have anything but insults and abuses.
Also, due to my teaching, writing and giving Da’wah, I was not able to find time to keep up with those enemies. So let them say what they want, for my sins are many, and perhaps because of their slander, my sins will be lightened for me and instead fall upon their shoulders.”
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Shaking The Hand Of The Non-Muslim Woman Who Comes Seeking Da’Wah
Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadee (rahimahullaah)
Is it permissible to shake the hand of the strange woman who comes for the purpose of accepting Islam; and if one does not shake her hand, then this may have the opposite effect, and she may think that she is (being) belittled; so what does the Muslim do in this situation?
It is not permissible to shake her hand due to what At-Tirmidhee narrates in his Jaami’ on the authority of UmaymahbintRuqayqah; she said: Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ said:
“I do not shake hands with women.”
Likewise, due to that which Al-Bukhaaree narrated in his Saheeh on the authority of Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, who said about Allaah’s Messengerﷺ: “By Allaah, his hand never touched the hand of a woman.”
At-Tabaraanee narrated in his Mu’jam from Ma’qil ibn Yassaar, may Allaah be pleased with him, who said: Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ said:
“For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than to touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”
What is understood is that this is not from the perspective of belittlement. However, it is a religious matter. Moreover, along with handshaking comes looking and speaking. So it is a must that things be predicated upon a proper foundation. I have mentioned the Hadeeth of Umaymah bint Ruqayqah; in it a woman said: “Will you not shake our hands O Messenger of Allaah, as you shake the hands of the men?” So he said:
“I do not shake the hands with women. My statement to one hundred women is like my statement to one woman.”
And the Prophet ﷺ would recite to them the verse which comes at the end of Soorah Al-Mumtahinah and then he would say to them:
“Are you upon this?”
And they would say: “Yes.”
Translated By: Aboo Moosaa Raha ibn Donald Batts