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The Nikah Has Many Benefits And Is A Protection From Fornication – Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan
The Nikah Has Many Benefits And Is A Protection From Fornication
Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan [Hafidhahullah]
النكاح فيه مصالح كثيرة و هو عصمة من الزنا – مقطع لفيضلة الشيخ العلامة صالح الفوزان (15/3/1434)
Translated by Abu ‘Abdullah Naasir Hussain [Hafidhahullah]
Courtesy of WeFilmHD
The Nikah is from the ways of Allah with regard to his creation, between the children of Adam, male and female.
With it there are great benefits, from them: chastity of the two spouses, one to the other; to fulfill what is required from the husband towards his wife; the husband taking care of his wife; and protecting her. From it is also the fulfilling of the desires of both sexes and from it is having children. There are many benefits from Nikah…
The most important thing is that it keeps you chaste from adultery, from fornication and the loss of lineage, and from the corruption of moral uprightness. There is the protection of one’s health.
As for adultery and fornication then their end place is in epidemics and in lethal illnesses, as is well-known.
وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا ٣٢
And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [i.e. anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him).
[Surah Al-'Isrā':32]
With it there is the loss of lineage, the spread of illnesses, the loss of modesty and chastity. With it there are great harms; fornication, we seek refuge with Allah, what an evil way. The harms of fornication are not limited.
With Nikah, there is a protection from fornication and from its harms, and all praises are due to Allah. Nikah produces offspring. As for fornication then it is a loss. The offspring from fornication have no father and no lineage, and we seek refuge with Allah. Lost… This is from the disadvantages of fornication.
He (Allah) didn’t say don’t fornicate, he said don’t come close to it, ‘don’t come near to it’, i.e. stay away from the means that lead to fornication. Such as: looking, the seclusion with a man, the traveling of the woman by herself, her showing off her beauty. These are means that lead to falling into fornication. Allah has not allowed them, he has prohibited them.
If there is leniency in these means then fornication will take place. If there is leniency in these means then fornication will take place, because the desires are present. Desires are present between men and women. If they sat together and mixed then fornication is close. Shaytaan is present, if a man secluded himself with a woman, then shaytaan is the third one amongst them.
They say you have bad thoughts and that you are pessimists. We are not pessimists, this is the reality. This is the reality and if these means that Allah has prohibited are violated, then fornication will occur, no doubt.
Even the righteous man, the religious one, there is a danger upon him from the woman. Especially if she was beautiful and he secluded himself with her or traveled with her or she joined him at work. Or if she sat with him in the classroom, or in an exam, or in meetings. Or if she sat with him on the television, or on the radio, as his colleague, i.e. a presenter next to him, and she is beautified and he is a youth. Far is Allah from all imperfections. Do you bring petrol next to fire? Petrol is by itself and the fire is by itself. You bring her next to him! This is like that; no it is worse than petrol and fire.
Desires… we seek refuge with Allah, desires are strong. So for this reason Allah (the Exalted, Most High), has placed barriers that prevent falling in to fornication. If they are preserved, fornication is lessened or cut-off. If they are lost, then fornication will occur without a doubt. No matter what, even if they are religious or modest, the children of Adam are not saved from fornication except by the means that prevent it.
How to interact with your wife – Shaykh Salih ibn Abdul Aziz Aali Shaykh
How to interact with your wife
by Shaykh Salih ibn Abdul Aziz Aali Shaykh
Shaykh Salih ibn Abdul Aziz Aali Shaykh may Allah preserve him said:
The third category: The man interaction with his wife
Allah جل وعلا has obligated upon the man similar to that which He has obligated upon the woman. Allah جل وعلا said:
وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ [البقرة:228
“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]
Allah جل وعلا has made the rights of the man primary, but He has given the woman rights just has He has given the man rights. Allah جل وعلا said in this verse:
“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.
The Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ gave many advices concerning the women.
There are some people who marry and they do not learn the regulations concerning social interactions with the wife. How should he talk to her? How should he request from her? What are the obligations that the wife must perform?
On the contrary, he only interacts with her based upon his sheer desires. He treats her according to his wishes and sometimes based upon his manhood and based upon his strength. And he does not do that which is Islamic binding upon him. He does not learn the legislated regulations concerning social interaction and dealing with the wife.
And how beautiful is the statement of Ibn Abbass رضي الله عنهما concerning this verse! He said concerning the statement of Allah جل وعلا:
“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.
He said: ‘Verily I do not like to demand all of my rights from my wife such that it will become obligatory upon me to give her all of her rights that she requests from me.
And also he used to order with beautification; meaning the man beautifying himself for his wife.
He said:
“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.
Therefore if the man requests that his wife beautify herself for him, and that she remove any foul odor and that she is beautified when with him; then likewise it is obligatory upon him to interact with her with that which Allah جل وعلا has made obligatory.
Look at the condition of the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ with his wives when they request maintenance from him. He said to them kind gentle words that preoccupied for a period of time until Allah جل وعلا reveal verses concerning this in Soorah Al Ahzab.
In many instances the man’s interaction with his wife is according to desires and according to the desires of manhood.
But some of the people are diligent upon interacting with their family according to the appropriate legislation, and this is what is obligatory so this is what we wanted to point out because this is a type of interaction that many people are void of.
On the other extreme as it relates to interacting with the wives, some people believe that good interaction is to give his wife free rein. And he fulfills every desire that the woman has without looking to see if that which she requested is permissible or impermissible, and without looking to see if it is something she has a right to do or not. It is something that will be good for her or is it something that will not be good for her? Is there a benefit for her it that or not?
(The men) are negligent in this affair to the extent that the women conduct themselves freeing like they are the men.
No doubt that these are two images on opposite sides of the spectrum.
- The one who is harsh and cruel
- The one who gives his wife free rein and it is as though his wife has become the man.
And the resolution for that, rather the balance and the guidelines are for the person to strive to be with his wife according to the guidelines of the legislation.
Allah جل وعلا ordered that the women should be given their rights; likewise He ordered that the man should be given their rights. And the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ, from the final advices he gave during his life, was advice concerning the rights of the women.
During his sermon on the day of Arafat, during his tremendous sermon which he bided farewell to the people he said: ‘Be kind to the women because verily they are in your trust.’ Meaning like captives
But this does not mean that he leaves the affairs up to her to do however she wants, and it does not mean that the person is negligent concerning the commands of Allah; rather he should be in accordance with that which Allah جل وعلا wants.
The man requests things from his wife but it is befitting that his interactions with his wife be in accordance with the statement of Ibn Abbass رضي الله عنهما.
He said I do not like to demand all of my rights from my wife such that it will become obligatory upon me to give her all of her rights that she requests from me.
On the other hand, there is the interaction of the wife with her husband. Allah has given the man a degree over the woman. He said:
But men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]
Allah جل وعلا gave man a preference based upon him providing maintenance. Thus He gave him preference in that which is specific to the man; thus man is the one responsible for providing maintenance and he is responsible for commanding the good and forbidding the wrong.
And it is upon the wife to obey the husband in that which is obedience to Allah, she should obey him in that which is correct and she should not disobey him.
Such that no one he hates should enter his home and she should not leave his home unless he is in agreement. And if the wife preserves the husband’s rights upon her then she has performed her obligations.
And it appears in an authentic narration: “If the woman prays her five daily prayers, and fast (the month of Ramadan) and obey her husband, then it will be said to her, ‘enter paradise from any door you choose.’”
And there is no doubt the it is a requirement for the woman to obey her husband and it is an obligation upon her as it relates to her interaction with her husband that she is obedient and pleased and she should be the one who concedes and yields. And she should not make the man the one who submits to her, and the one who is submissive to her, because in this action there is corruption.
And the judges have spoken about the affair of the husband obeying his wife and what occurs when some of the women rule their husbands. The end result is that the woman is not content with her husband, the one who obeys her, and has some good interactions with her; rather she makes him obey her in everything that she desires. Thus the end result is that she hates him, because the woman by her nature needs someone who will take care of her. So if the man takes responsibility for her and interacts with her according to the commands of Allah جل وعلا then both of them will have a good result.
Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
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The Honeymoon should be Continuous – Shaikh Uthaymin
The Honeymoon should be Continuous
By Sheikh Uthaymin
Sheikh Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, said
Some of the people say that it is possible to take from the statement of the messenger of Allah peace and blessings are upon him, “so that you can taste his honey and he can taste your honey”, that we can take what is called a honeymoon so is this correct?
[Translator’s Footnote: Originally "honeymoon" simply described the period just after the wedding when things are at their sweetest; it is assumed to wane in a month. (Wikipedia)]
Yes this is correct. But the honey is not just for a month if you remain with the woman; rather the honey will be continuous not just for a month.
As for traveling during this month to lands that are not befitting to be traveled to then this is a waste of money. And then we hear about some of the people who travel to outside countries and they go to swimming pools, night clubs, and theaters, and his wife is uncovered, revealing her head, chest and arms, and so on and so forth; and with Allah refuge is sought.
This only occurs from someone who has changed the favor of Allah into ingratitude; rather the reward for this blessing is for the person to increase in thanking Allah and to live with his family in a good manner.
But what is the ruling on the one who says, ‘instead of this I will go with my wife to umrah, (for the honeymoon)?
We say this is good, but it is not good. Because it is obvious that the origin of this is taken from the non Muslims; we did not know of this during the time of the previous scholars or during the time of the pious predecessors and none of the people of knowledge spoke about doing this, therefore this has been obtained from the non Muslims; this is one angle.
From another angle, I fear that if a long time passes by and the people are making marriage a legitimate reason for making umrah then it will be said, it is the Sunnah for everyone who gets married to make umrah. Therefore we would have invented for an act of worship, a reason that has not been legislated, and this is a problem. Because if a long time passes the condition of the people will change and they will forget the beginning.
For this reason we say, have the honeymoon in your room, in your home and make the honeymoon forever not one month; and the praises belong to Allah for wellbeing.
Translated by Rasheed Barbee
http://sahab.net/forums/showthread.php?t=381402
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A Severe Warning Against Wedding Pictures and Video Tapes – Shaykh Uthaymeen
Wedding Pictures
A warning from Shaykh Uthaymeen
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O slaves of Allah verily we have been plagued for some time now by a great tribulation done by some people whom Allah has favored with marriage. And this is their taking pictures of the wedding party; pictures with the camera and perhaps with tapes which can be placed in the television and these are the video tapes. This is the affliction which we have been plagued with. And I do not know the intent of these people.
Do they do this in order to increase the love between the husband and his wife? Or do they do this because that is more pleasing to the wife from the husband? Or do they do this to announce the wedding? Or do they do this because it draws them closer to Allah the Exalted? Or do they do this because it is ingratitude to Allah for this favor?
None of these worldly and religious benefits are obtained by way of this reprehensible impermissible action. Rather the only thing that is obtained from this is exposing their disobedience to Allah the Exalted, and removing the veil of shyness from the husband and the wife, and from the community of women.
These pictures which are taken will be exposed for the onlookers anytime they want to look at them. Does it please you to expose your women in front of the immoral people? Does it please you to expose your women in front of the people every time someone wants to show your sister’s face, or your daughter’s face, or your wife’s face? Does that please you O believers?
Do you have jealousy? Do you have belief in Allah? Do you fear Allah’s punishment? Do you not fear that the favor that was sent upon you will be changed into a punishment? Do you not fear the Creator of the earth and the heavens? Are you not afraid that you will be united with the enemies of Allah from the disbelievers and those who resemble them? Because the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
مَنْ تَشَبَّهَ بِقَوْمٍ فَهُوَ مِنْهُمْ
Whoever resembles a people then he is from them.
Are you pleased for the husband and wife to be punished through hatred and animosity between the two of them until the family bond dissolves? All of these affairs are possible to occur even if we are given respite while opening disobeying our Lord. This is only respite from Allah the Exalted. (And the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:)
إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَيُمْلِي لِلظَّالِمِ ، حَتَّى إِذَا أَخَذَهُ لَمْ يُفْلِتْهُ
Verily Allah grants the oppressor respite until He seizes him He does not release him.
And the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم recited:
وَكَذَلِكَ أَخْذُ رَبِّكَ إِذَا أَخَذَ الْقُرَى وَهِيَ ظَالِمَةٌ إِنَّ أَخْذَهُ أَلِيمٌ شَدِيدٌ
And thus is the seizure of your Lord when He seizes the cities while they are committing wrong. Indeed, His seizure is painful and severe. (Soorah Hud 11:102)
O people think, and use your intelligence concerning this affair. What is the result, what are its benefits, what are its harms? Verily Allah has given you intellects He did not make you like animals who do not know what is being done to them. They are driven to their place of slaughter and it goes submissively, and it is taken to pasture so it goes submissively.
You have intellects, with your intellects you perceive that which is beneficial and that which is harmful. And Allah has perfected His favor upon you by sending down upon you His Book and by what He revealed to His Messenger Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم. This affair is horrid. This affair is known by the legislation, known by the intellect, perceived by the senses. It is not hidden from anyone except the one whom Allah has erased away the light of his insight and diminished the jealous from his heart and decreased the religion from his heart.
O Muslims, O you who have jealousy, reflect upon this affair which your scholars have prohibited you from. Do not allow this blessing to sweep you into an abyss. This affair is evil, this affair is haram, and this affair is a prelude to corruption, this affair gradually leads to haram enjoyment and pleasure. Because everyone who takes these pictures whether on video tapes or by camera, he is able to look and enjoy these pictures anytime he wants to look at them.
This issue is very clear. But where are those designated guardians those who have direct responsibility over these women. And where are the guardians over the general affairs, those who have the ability to discipline those who do this with a discipline that will act as a deterrent for them and others. It is upon us to be strong in the religion of Allah. And it is upon us to not be concerned with anyone other than Allah the Exalted. And it is upon us to establish the limits of Allah. And verily I swear that whoever establishes the limits of Allah, for the sake of Allah, according to what the laws of Allah requires then Allah will assist him against all of his enemies.
O believers, O designated guardians, O general guardians, verily it is upon us all to come together to eliminate this evil corrupt phenomenon. By Allah this corruption is not a light matter even if some of the people take it lightly. Enjoying the wedding only occurs by showing gratitude for the blessings of Allah and establishing the ordinances that the legislation allows and not going beyond them or exceeded the limits of Allah or His laws.
Allah the Exalted said:
وَلَوْ أَنَّ أَهْلَ الْقُرَى آمَنُوا وَاتَّقَوْا لَفَتَحْنَا عَلَيْهِمْ بَرَكَاتٍ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَلَكِنْ كَذَّبُوا فَأَخَذْنَاهُمْ بِمَا كَانُوا يَكْسِبُونَ * أَفَأَمِنَ أَهْلُ الْقُرَى أَنْ يَأْتِيَهُمْ بَأْسُنَا بَيَاتاً وَهُمْ نَائِمُونَ * أَوَأَمِنَ أَهْلُ الْقُرَى أَنْ يَأْتِيَهُمْ بَأْسُنَا ضُحىً وَهُمْ يَلْعَبُونَ * أَفَأَمِنُوا مَكْرَ اللَّهِ فَلا يَأْمَنُ مَكْرَ اللَّهِ إِلَّا الْقَوْمُ الْخَاسِرُونَ الأعراف:96-99
And if only the people of the cities had believed and feared Allah, We would have opened upon them blessings from the heaven and the earth; but they denied [the Messengers], so We seized them for what they were earning.”
Then, did the people of the cities feel secure from Our punishment coming to them at night while they were asleep?
Or did the people of the cities feel secure from Our punishment coming to them in the morning while they were at play?
Did they then feel secure against the plan of Allah? None feels secure from the plan of Allah except the people who are the losers. (Soorah Al A’raf: 7:96-99)
Verily it is upon us, the believers; a responsibility. We are not like those who disbelieve, and enjoy themselves and eat as cattle eat, while the fire is their destination. Verily it is upon us believers, those who thank Allah for favoring us with Imaan, there is a great responsibility upon us that we implement the laws of Allah. This is the freedom that is beneficial freedom not unrestricted freedom at the expense of others.
Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
http://mtws.posterous.com/wedding-pictures-a-warning-from-shaykh-uthaym
Answer concerning Prophet’s marriage to Aisha – By Shaykh Muhammad Al Aqeel
Answer concerning Prophet’s marriage to Aisha
By Shaykh Muhammad Al Aqeel
Shaykh Muhammad bin Hadee Al Madhkali reads the question:
The questioner says: What is the best answer to respond with to the disbeliever when he asks me concerning the marriage of the Prophet, prayers and peace are upon him, to Aisha when she was nine years old?
Shaykh Al Aqeel:
The Prophet, prayers and peace are upon him is more knowledgeable than us and that Kafir. It is said to this western Kafir: What’s going on with your daughters today? What is the condition of your daughters? O unfortunate one. Mourn over yourself O unfortunate one if you are going to mourn. The western statistics do not find a virgin in high school at all, never. These are their statistics.
If there comes to you something reproachable from my defects; then this testifies to the fact that I am complete.
We presented this to doctors who are specialists. Does it harm the young girl who has reached the age of puberty to marry early? (The answer) No. This does not harm her. This is what the doctors said.
This affair is very normal. When the young girl reaches puberty even if she is nine years old for her to marry does not harm her at all; it does not harm her at all.
This is not anything to be ashamed of. Shame is for the daughter to fornicate with her lover on her father’s and mother’s bed with no disapproval. This is something to be ashamed of. As for that which the natural inclination proves, and the intelligent people have agreed upon its permissibility then this is nothing to be ashamed of.
Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
http://mtws.posterous.com/answer-concerning-prophets-marriage-to-aisha
Would you be Pleased with this for your Sister or Daughter?
Published on 27 Sep 2012 by DaarusSunnah
Shaykh Sulaymaan ar-Ruhaylee
Excerpt
As for marriage with the intention of divorce then yes, the scholars have differed with regards to it and the majority are upon the opinion that marriage with the intention of divorce is correct. However, that which is apparent to me – and Allaah knows best, is that the correct opinion is the speech of some of the Taa’bieen – “Indeed marriage with the intention of divorce is not permissible” Click here to read
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