Proposing to a Woman who Does not Cover in Hopes of Changing Her
by Shaykh Muhammad Firkoos
Is it permissible to propose to a woman who prays but does not cover (i.e. she is Mutabarrijah), intending to compel her to wear the Jilbaab after marriage? What is your advice?
All the praise is for Allaah the Lord of all that exists. May prayers and peace be upon he whom Allaah sent as a mercy to the creation; upon his family members and companions and his brethren until the Day of Recompense. As to proceed:
It is befitting that the prayer should be a reason for the uprightness of the individual. The Prophet said:
“The first thing which the servant will be called to account for on the Day of Standing is the prayer. If it is sound then the rest of his actions will be sound; if it is corrupt then the rest of his actions will be corrupt.” 
The one whom his prayer does not prevent him from lewdness (Al-Fahshaa’) and evil acts (Al-Munkar) then his actions will be deficient. And from Al-Fahshaa’ is At-Tabarruj (not covering or not covering properly). Allaah the Glorified and High has commanded the people to not display their ‘Awraah:
O Children of Adam! Take your adornment (by wearing your clean clothes), while praying. (Al-A’raf 7:31)
And He said:
O Children of Adam! We have bestowed raiment upon you to cover yourselves (screen your private parts, etc.) and as an adornment, and the raiment of righteousness, that is better. Such are among the Ayât (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) of Allaah, that they may remember (i.e. leave falsehood and follow truth). O Children of Adam! Let not Shaytaan (Satan) deceive you, as he got your parents [Adam and Hawwa (Eve)] out of Paradise, stripping them of their raiment, to show them their private parts. Verily, he and Qabîluhu (his soldiers from the Jinn or his tribe) see you from where you cannot see them. Verily, We made the Shayaateen (devils) Auliyâ’ (protectors and helpers) for those who believe not. And when they commit a Fâhisha (evil deed, going round the Ka’bah in naked state, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse, etc.), they say: “We found our fathers doing it, and Allaah has commanded us of it.” Say: “Nay, Allaah never commands of Fâhisha. Do you say of Allaah what you know not? (Al-A’raf 7:26-28)
In the pre-Islamic days of ignorance they would make Tawaaf (around the Ka’bah) naked. So nakedness and uncovering enters into the general meaning of Faahishah. Allaah has commanded the women to cover.
And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance. (Al-Ahzaab 33:33)
And He, the Most High has said:
O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies. (Al-Ahzaab 33:59)
So if this woman does not comply with the legislative texts commanding to cover and she is not reformed by her prayer to abandon Al-Fahshaa’ (lewdness i.e. not covering) and Munkar (evil), then we do not advise proposing to her. We have no doubt that after the man marries her it will be difficult for him to change her to the path that he sees as correct. The scholars have confirmed the principle: Repelling (evil) takes precedence over elevating (the status of someone etc.). Also because leaving (marrying) her today is better than marrying her then divorcing her or seeking annulment (tomorrow) because she won’t comply with his command. More evil that is that which is feared; that he will come to be in agreement with her desires and fall into sharing (in her sin) and be affected by her Fitnah, then become pleased with the Munkar after it becomes something which he deems to be good; and Allaah is beseeched for help.
And the knowledge is with Allaah. The last of our supplications is: All the praise is for Allaah, and may prayers and peace from Allaah be upon Muhammad, his family, companions, and all those who follow them in goodness until the Day of Recompense.
 At-Tabaraanee in Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat no. 1929; Ad-Diyaa’ Fee Al-Mukhtaar 2/209, from the Hadeeth of Anas ibn Maalik, may Allaah be pleased with him. Al-Albaanee graded it as Saheeh in As-Silsilah As-Saheehah no. 1358 and in Saheeh Al-Jaami’ no. 2573
Translated By: Raha ibn Donald Batts
- The Hijab .. Why ? by Muhammad Bin Ahmad Bin Ismail AL-Mokadam – Translated by Saleh Al-Saleh (rahimahullaah)
This book list the virtues of a critical aspect of this protection: the HIJAB. The characteristics of the Hijab are discussed, bringing the glad tidings promised (by Allah) to those women adhering to it. It also points out the danger of dazzling displays of ornaments and beauty as well as the terrible repercussions in this life and in the hereafter for those who practice Tabar’roj.
- Oh Sister covered in Hijab – by Shaik Badr Ali Utaybee hafidahullaah
Taken from the Book “20 pieces of advice to my sister before her marriage”
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Author: Sheikh Abdul Qaadir Bin Muhammad Al Junaid
Translated By: Abu Afnaan Muhammad Abdullah
All praise is due to Allah the All Powerful and All Mighty. Peace and blessings be upon the Master of all of mankind (Muhammad), his family, his companions and the tabi’een .
Abu Huraira -May Allah be pleased with him- has related that the Prophet (Sallahu alaihi wa salam) said,
“Hasten to do good deeds; (there will be) fitnah like a portion of a dark night, wherein an individual wakes up as a believer and begins the night as a disbeliever or he begins the night as a believer and wakes up as a disbeliever. He sells his religion for a portion of the dunya (this worldly life).”
This hadith will be explained in light of the different issues related to this hadith:
1. The analysis of this hadith and its authenticity.
Imam Muslim narrated this hadith (n.118) and the abovementioned phrasing is from his narration. Also, Imam Ahmad related this hadith (n. 10,772) and (n. 8,030), At Tirmidhi also related it (n. 2,195), along with Ibn Hibban (n. 6,704) and other narrators of hadith have narrated this hadith as well.
Those (scholars of hadith) who deemed this hadith authentic (sahih) were: Muslim, At Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban, Abu ‘Awaana, Al Baghawi, Al Albani and other scholars of hadith.
2. The subject matter of the hadith:
The topic of this hadith is to warn from the threat of fitnah and an explanation of the dangers and harms it presents to mankind.
3. The third issue of the hadith: The explanation of the hadith.
This hadith is related to fitnah, which is of two types:
The first type is the fitnah of As Shubuhaat (doubts). What is meant by this type of fitnah is that fitnah which is connected to the religion/deen. This type of fitnah is more severe than the fitnah of As shahawaat (base desires) because it (may) expel an individual from the purity of At Tawheed and cause him to enter into the filth of As Shirk (polytheism), Al Kufr (disbelief), Al Ilhaad (atheism or misguidance with regards to Allah’s names and attributes), or Az Zandaqa(hypocrisy) and cause him to exit from the light of the Sunnah and cause him to enter into the darkness of bid’ah and misguidance.
This type of fitnah appears from time to time. Read more…
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Question posed to Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan (may Allaah preserve him):
Q. May Allaah bestow good upon you. How can we differentiate between blameworthy silence regarding fitan (trials and tribulation) and praiseworthy non-involvement in it?
A. “Al-Fitan, no one should speak about it except for the people of knowledge and insight. Not everyone is to speak concerning it. If the ignorant speak regarding the Fitan the Fitan increases. As for the case if the scholars were to speak about the fitan and clarify it, then it will decrease by the permission of Allaah. Therefore in relation to fitan, not everyone is to speak concerning it. Rather the only ones that are to speak concerning the fitan are the people of knowledge and insight, those who know the truth from falsehood. And they know how to speak (concerning the fitan). It is not for everyone to speak concerning the fitan and give religious verdicts regarding it. Na’am.”
Translated by Abu Yusuf Khaleefah the 4th of Jumaadaa ath-Thaaniyah 1433/ April 25th 2012
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