In the name of Allaah, the Most Beneficent, Most Merciful. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family and companions. As for what follows;
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: The Messenger of Allaah, may peace and blessings be upon him, said:
“The believer is the mirror of the believer.”[Abu Daawud 4918 with a good chain]
Sheikh Saalih al-Fouzaan, may Allaah preserve him, explains this hadeeth by saying:
“A mirror is that which you see yourself when you stand in front of it whether the picture is presentable or needs fixing and modificaton. When a person wishes to leave from his home, he stands in front of the mirror because there may be something that he needs to correct on himself or remove from his clothing or the like. For a person to have a pleasant appearance in front of the people is a good thing, however there is the figurative meaning of mirror that shows you your deficiencies and that is your Muslim brother/sister.
The believer is the mirror of his fellow brother. Your brother knows the mistakes and shortcomings that you may have and therefore informs you of them so accept what he tells you. This is an encouragement to accept what your brother presents to you which entails the beautification of your inward and outward appearance. Also he sees things in you that you can’t see yourself. A person may think he is complete and is mistake-free whereas his sincere and genuine Muslim brother sees that he has mistakes and shortcomings thus he instructs him to rectify them. So do not restrict yourself solely to your own assumptions and considerations but consult your brother and listen to the advice he has to give.
In this hadeeth are two important matters:
1) A person should accept the advice of his sincere brother from that which he sees in him from defects and correct them.
2) It is compulsory upon the Muslim to advise his brother/sister and not remain silent about what he sees in him from defects and the like or the opposite; praising him and being phony with him by relaying to him that which isn’t true (about himself). This is deceit and treachery. “The believer is the mirror to the believer,” he sees in him his own picture and what needs perfecting and reformation.”
Translated from: ‘Tasheelul Ilmaam bi fiqhil Ahaadeeth min Bulooghil Maraam’ by Sheikh Saalih al-Fouzaan
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (may Allaah have mercy upon him) stated:
“Whoever believes in the messengers and obeys them, their enemies display enmity towards him and harm him. Therefore he (the believer) is tested by that which hurts him. If the person doesn’t believe in them and he doesn’t obeys them, he is punished in the life of this world and in the hereafter. Therefore that which hurts him comes about. And that which hurts him is the greatest of pain and more lasting than the pain that befalls the followers of the Messengers. Therefore its a must that that one goes through hardship/pain whether you believe or turn away from Eemaan. However (the difference is that) the believer experiences pain in the life of this world to start, then he will have a good ending in the life of this world and in the hereafter. As for the one who turned away from Eemaan, he will experience delight to start with then he will proceed on to the everlasting punishment.”
Taking from “Ad-Daw al-Muneer alaa at-Tafseer” 4/490.
Translated by Abu Yusuf Khaleefah 7th of Jumaadaa ath-Thaaniyah 1433/ 28th of April 2012
It is reported that ‘Abdullâh b. Mas’ûd – Allâh be pleased with him – said:
The example of the believer, the unbeliever and the hypocrite is that of three people who arrived at a valley. One of them descended and passed through to the other side. One of them descended until he reached half way, when the third man on the edge of the valley called to him, “Woe to you, where are you going? You will die. Come back.” The man who made it to the other side called to him, “Come and be saved.” So [the man in the middle of the valley] kept looking back and forth at the two [on each side of the valley], when a flood came into the valley and drowned him. The man who passed through to the other side is the believer; the one who drowned is the munâfiq (hypocrite) –
[The Hypocrites] sway between this and that, neither [fully] with the believers nor with the unbelievers. [Quran 4:143]
And the one who remained at the edge of the valley [not able to escape the flood and pass] is the kâfir (unbeliever).
Ibn Abî Hâtim, Al-Tafsîr article 6144.
Don’t just be patient, be patient and along with that hope for a reward from Allaah for your patience during your calamity
Shaikh Ibn Uthaimeen, may Allaah have mercy on him, said,
“Indeed when a person faces calamities with patience [but] without hoping for a reward from Allaah, the calamity will become an expiation for his sins. And if he shows patience along with hoping for a reward [from Allaah], then along with being an expiation for his sins it becomes a good recompense and reward. And the meaning of hoping for Allaah’s reward [al-Ihtisaab] is that a person believes that he will soon be rewarded for the patience [he is showing], so he makes good his thoughts about Allaah and thus Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, will give him [a reward] according to what he thought of Him.”
At-Ta’leeq alaa Saheeh Muslim, p. 342.
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