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Should I beat my daughter?
Shaykh Abdur Rahman Al Baraak (hafithahuAllah)

Questioner:

Oh Shaykh may Allah rectify us and our offspring. If I want to beat my daughter due to a problem that occurred between her and her sister or due to her wrecking the house, or not listening to what her mother tells her or not listening to me; when I beat her she becomes frighten and says: “Dear father may Allah preserve you, I ask my Lord to enter you into paradise.”

So I am concerned about this dua especially since I continue to beat her and I say to myself, “Say, oh Allah, Enter me into paradise though I beat her”.

Shaykh Baraak: Why do you beat her? Why? Do not beat her! Why do you beat her?!

Questioner: Due to her disobeying her mother and her father.

Shaykh Baraak: No, No, do not beat her. Discipline her with words. Beating is not the appropriate means. Hitting is for violating the rights of Allah, for violating the rights of Allah. If she does not pray after reaching the age of ten then she is lightly hit as a means of discipline.

(Your beating her) is incorrect.

Some of the people go to the extreme. Some of the people punish their children with fire! This is ignorance.

Discipline is not torture! It is not torture! Show mercy and you will be shown mercy.

Do not beat your daughter. Discipline her (with words).  (Such as saying) ‘Shame on you, Shame on you’, ‘This is not correct.’ ’What is this you are doing?’

Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
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Poisonous Tongues

Source: “al-Jawaabul-Kaafee/adDaa wad-Dawaa”.
Transcribed from: The Appendix of “An Explanation of the Hadeeth: “Say, ‘I believe in Allah’, and then be upright and steadfast.” | Ibn Rajab

Imaam Ibnul-Qayyim, rahimahullaah, said:

It is quite amazing how it can be easy upon a person to be cautious and wary with regards to [different impermissible acts such as]: eating from unlawful means, oppression, adultery and fornication, stealing, drinking intoxicants, looking at prohibited things and the likes, and yet quite difficult for him to be careful about the movement of his tongue. So bad that you find a person towards whom the people point to concerning his practice of the Religion, his asceticism, and worship, and despite this he says statements that anger Allaah greatly and he shows no concern about this, yet this statement will take him [to a Fire] that is farther than distance between east and west. (1)

How many people do you see from amongst those who have enough piety to abstain from lewd, indecent acts, oppression and wrong doing, but their tongues rip apart the honor of both the dead and the living and they show not a care in the least.

Footnotes:

(1) Just as al-Bukhaaree (no. 6477) and Muslim (no. 2988) have collected on the authority of Aboo Hurayrah.

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1) I have a lot of hair around my armpits and private area. So is it permissible for me to seek (laser) treatment from a Doctor? I have tried to pluck my hair but it has caused me much trouble.

2) How do we understand the statement of Ibn Taymiyaah in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 32/194: Whoever thinks of increasing his daughter’s mahr and asking for more than what the daughters of the Messenger of Allah were given – when they were the best women in this world in all aspects – is an ignorant fool. The same applies to asking for more than what the Mothers of the Believers were given. This applies even if one is well off and can afford it. With regard to one who is poor, he should not give a mahr greater than what he can afford to pay without any hardship”?

3) A brother continues to contact me with reminders of lectures and events even after he has married another women. What is your advice?

4) What is the ruling on wearing the uniform of the nurses? This uniform reaches the middle of the shin and I wear clothes underneath to cover my body.

5) What is the time period which is permissible for me to be away from my wife?

6) The majority of the schools here are mixed and now I go to a girl’s school. Is it permissible for a sister to work in a call centre where she sits behind a desk on her own table? The place is mixed but there isn’t any communication with the opposite gender. I need to pay my education fees for a girl’s only school.

7) I pray in a Masjid which follows the Hanafee Madhab. If I see an evil is it permissible for me to change it?
8) A questioner from Iran asks, is it permissible to migrate to Iran?
9) What is the ruling on wearing high heels?10) I work in a hotel as a deputy manager. Is this job regarded as haraam? The hotel sells alcohol, but I have nothing to do with dealing with it.

11) How can we achieve brotherhood?

12) Do the women receive the same reward as the men for praying in congregation?

13) When do you make the remembrance for the night, is it after Asr or Maghrib?

14) What is the difference between defensive and offensive jihad and are there any conditions?

15) Is it obligatory upon me to obey my parents if they do not allow me to marry?

16) Some women reject the idea of polygamy, what is the ruling on this?

17) My parents mock me because I wear the Jilbab. What do you advise me?

18) (A brother asks) I have a sister on my father’s side that lives with her mother. Am I allowed to visit her while she is with her mother?

19) What is the correct method to rid oneself from arrogance and boastfulness?

20) I want to assist my father to offer hajj every year, but he claims that he is not ready. I fear that he will die without performing it. Is he sinful?

21) Is it permissible to pray the Friday prayer in a musala because the masjid in our neighbourhood is Sufi?

22) A person inherited a house which was purchased with an interested base mortgage. Is this house halal for him?

23) A person in prayer performed Sujood directly after Rukoo without rising. Then he performed the two prostrations of forgetfulness. Is this correct?

24) I am a traveller and I have heard that it is not obligatory to attend the Friday prayer. However, I have the ability to attend it, should I attend it?

25) Every time I intend to sleep the shaytan comes to me and tells me the angle of death is in the room who wants to take my soul. What is your advice for me?

26) What is the ruling on buying cats or dogs?

27) I want to work in this country however I have heard that the tax is used for the war in Iraq. What do you advise me with?

28) My father has a daughter who he does not contact. What is your advice for him?

29) A brother in hospital (Abdullah Preston) asks for you to supplicate for him as he is in hospital.

30) A person translates an answer from the Shaykh but does not translate it correctly and sometimes adds to the question from his desires. What do we say to this person?

31) What is your advice to the one who says you cannot praise the companions as Allah has said, “And do not praise yourselves.”?

32) Is it permissible to use the miswak while in a lesson or while the teacher is teaching?

33) Should a revert have circumcision?

34) Is it obligatory for a person to perform wudu if he becomes Muslim?

35) Will I be rewarded if I marry more than one wife?

36) Is it permissible to wipe over the head scarf?

37) What are the conditions on rebelling against the ruler and do we call those people who demonstrate al-Khawaarij?

38) Is it permissible to pray the four sunnah prayers before Dhuhr with one tashahud?

39) Is it permissible to use the term “Divinely Religions”?

40) What is your advice for a sister who wants to leave the religion and commit suicide due to waswasa?

41) Is it correct that Imam Ahmed permitted supplicating to Allah through the Prophet Muhammed?

42) What is the ruling on using sand from the Dead Sea as skin cream?

43) What is the ruling if someone performs the prayer in front of the Imam in the Friday prayer?

44) If someone performs wudu but forgets to wipe his head. Is his prayer correct?

45) What is your advice for the brothers and sisters at Masjid Daar us Sunnah?

Answers here

The Obligation of Differing From The Disbelievers
Author: Shaykh Saleh ibn Fawzan al-Fawzan
Jumah Khutbah: Riyadh, Date: October 12, 2001 (Rajab 25, 1422)

All praise is due to Allaah Who has promised those with patience a reward without measure. He has rewarded those who are thankful for His bounties with preservation and protection as well as with a generous increase with regard to these bounties. I testify that there is nothing worthy of worship except Allaah, with Whom there is no associate, beyond any shadow of doubt. I testify that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger; the leader of all Messengers and the chosen one from among all mankind. May the blessings of Allaah be upon him, his family, his companions and all those who will follow them sincerely until the Day of Judgement.

O Allaah’s servants! Allaah, the Most High, has granted the Muslims a complete Sharee’ah, or comprehensive set of rules, that cover all religious and worldly matters. He made happiness both in this world and in the Hereafter contingent on working according it and adhering to its guidance. Allaah, Most High says that which means: “Whoever follows My guidance will neither go astray [in the world] nor suffer [in the Hereafter].”(Taa Haa: 123).“Whoever follows My guidance – there will be no fear concerning them, nor will they grieve.”(Al-Baqarah: 38).

This Sharee’ah is the straight and correct way, which is the way of those  on whom Allaah has bestowed His Grace such as His Prophets, the sincere, the martyrs, and the righteous. Anything other than this is the way of those who have earned the wrath of Allaah such as the Jews, the Christians and the polytheists.

Dear Muslims! In every rak`ah, or cycle, of your prayer, you invoke Allaah to show you the straight path and keep you away from the path of those who have earned His wrath and those who have gone astray. You do this because you recite Surat Al-Faatihah. This recitation in every rak`ah is one of the pillars of Salaah, or prayer. Therefore, you should reflect on this Du`aa’, or supplication, its objectives and its positive results.

First and foremost, it implies following Allaah’s Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam and adhering to Allaah’s Sharee’ah concerning acts of worship, business transactions, morals and inward and outward manners. It also entails differing from the disbelievers with regard to their specific acts of worship, business transactions, morals, and manners. This is because imitating them outwardly leads to Read more…

The Shaykh, ‘Allaamah Zayd Ibn Muhammad Ibn Haadee Al-Madkhalee was asked:

Noble Shaykh, how does the believer distance himself from showing off in his actions? And does the people’s praise of him on account of his worship harm him?

He responded:

Actions are judged in accordance to the intentions.

As for the person who the people praise due to him performing good deeds and he did not do these acts except seeking the pleasure of Allah, then the people’s praise of him and their commendation is a testimony for what he is upon and this does not harm him.

However, if he notices something (i.e. in his heart) when the people praise and commend him or when he hears that someone praises him, if he notices something in his heart like amazement or showing off then he should turn to Allah; and he should say the supplication that has been reported upon the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):

“O Allah, I seek refuge with you from knowingly committing Shirk and I seek your forgiveness for what I have no knowledge of.”

[In the book there appears to be a typing error towards the latter part of the hadeeth, and Allah knows best.  So I have affirmed that which is found in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad of Imam Al-Bukhari and other hadeeth collections.]

Verily, this – by the Will of Allah – will remove what is in his heart from weakness or showing off, by the Might and Power of Allah.

Al-‘Iqd Al-Munaddad Al-Jadded (1/28)

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Food and Gifts from Non-Muslims
Shaikh Muhammad Salih Al-Uthaimeen (May Allah have mercy on him)

Question:  Occasionally, for special events my non-Muslim neighbor sends me food and sweets.  Is it permissible for me to eat them?

Answer:  Yes, it is permissible for you to eat food given as a gift from a non-Muslim if you trust them because the prophet (salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam) accepted a gift from a Jewish women which she gave in the form of a sheep and he also accepted a Jew’s invitation to share a meal and he ate (salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam).  So, there is no problem in accepting the gifts of non-Muslims or eating their food with the condition that they are trustworthy (in that they would not try to harm you) and if you are worried or afraid (that they could harm you in some way i.e. serving you poisoned food etc.) then their invitation is not to be answered.  Likewise, it cannot be for a religious event or holiday like Christmas etc. as the gifts given for this event are not to be accepted.

Translated by John ‘Eesa’ Starling
http://www.ibnothaimeen.com/all/noor/article_8315.shtml

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Fathers whose Children will Intercede for Them on the Day of Judgement
by Ahmed Abu Turaab @ http://wp.me/p1lJtd-JT

Al-Albaani: It is known in many hadiths that on the Day of Resurrection there will be young children standing at the gate of Paradise, crying and asking for their fathers. So Allaah the Blessed and Most High will send Jibreel عليه السلام to ask them why they are crying–even though He the Blessed and Most High knows better about them–so Jibreel عليه السلام will ask them and they will reply, saying, ‘We will not enter Paradise except that our fathers are with us.’ So the Lord of the Worlds will give permission to them and their fathers to enter Paradise.

So this type of intercession, i.e., hastening entry into Paradise, is what those fathers who offered aqiqah’s on behalf of their children, i.e., sacrificed on their behalf when they were born, deserve.

Al-Huda wan-Noor, no. 16.

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Scholar: Imâm Muhammad Nâsir-ud-Dîn al-Albânî
Source: Silsilat-ul-Hudâ wan-Nûr (233), Reference: Maktabah Darulhadith.com
Audio and translation courtesy of http://aFatwa.com

Question: The Palestinian Intifada has now been going on for 1 ½ years. We throw stones at the jews that either hits them on the head or not. What do you say about throwing stones at the jews or continuing the Intifada in this way at all?

Shaykh al-Albânî: We have honored the intifada from the entire beginning. It deserves to be honored given its courage and heroism. However, it goes about the wrong way. If we firstly consider the Sharî’ah-based texts and thereafter the biography of the prophet (sallâ Allâhu ‘alayhi wa sallam), we see that this matter is in need of preparation. This preparation addresses two matters;

1. the spiritual
2. and the militaristic.

We already know that the prophet (sallâ Allâhu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and his companions were subjected to hardships by the polytheists in Makkah until Allâh (tabârak wa ta’âlâ) allowed some of them to emigrate even if it be to Abyssinia. Allâh thereafter allowed the prophet (sallâ Allâhu ‘alayhi wa sallam) to emigrate from Makkah to al-Madînah. He was followed by those who were able to follow, and others stayed. The believers are up until today subjected to the worst punishments [by the Kuffâr etc], which history is a witness to.

What I want to say is, the Muslims of the world (should not) rush it. They should rather prepare themselves to fight against the disbelievers (Kuffâr) and expel them from the Muslim countries to the disbelieving countries. That is why Allâh (ta’âlâ) said in the Qur’ân:

“And make ready against them all you can of power, including steeds of war (tanks, planes, missiles, artillery, etc.) to threaten the enemy of Allâh and your enemy”

(8:60, interpretation of the meanings)

The intifada is undoubtedly just as (it was) before though even more evident. It has not been prepared at all in order to be able to fight against the disbelievers who have occupied this country (I.e. Palestine). Both spiritual and militaristic preparations are missing.

Secondly, we see that it is useless and worthless to confront various types of machine guns by way of stones. That is why I do not see any results from this intifada. It has now been going on for two entire years and they still stand on the same spot. Especially since the Arabic countries, who after all have a fairly [acceptable] military force, doesn’t help our brothers militaristically.

Attaining Two Rewards for Trying to Accomplish what You are Aiming For

by Ahmed Abu Turaab

Shaikh Ibn Uthaimeen, may Allaah have mercy on him, said,

“Indeed those things which inhibit a person from attaining what he is aiming for are numerous.  But by seeking Allaah’s Aid, the Mighty and Majestic, and by expending [the required] effort he will achieve his goal.  And let it be known that every time the diversion is stronger then the one seeking [his goal] will be in a jihaad, and that every time the distraction is stronger but the person drives it away then through that he will receive two rewards: the reward for doing the [righteous] action and the reward for repelling the hindrance and for this reason the Prophet صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم said,

“Ahead of you there are days of patience, when patience will be like grasping live coals, and the one who does good deeds will have the reward of fifty Companions,” because of the numerousness of the things that hinder.”

Ash-Sharh al-Mumti, vol. 1, pp. 22-23.

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