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Children & Parents Conflict or Harmony – Abu Khadeejah

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Whether you deny the fact or try to explain it away, the reality is you will be placed in a cold, dark and possibly damp place as you see if only you visit the  grave yards.  All those who came before you whether they be from the Prophets and Messengers (with the exception of ‘Eesaa who is still alive and upon returning back to the earth Allah will also take his soul after a period), the Sahabah, the righteous and the sinful, all of us will die!!

Do you for a second believe that there is any place in this world where the Angel of Death will be unable to reach you???  If you hide yourself in the highest fortress with the ultimate in locks that the Angel of Death will not be able to take you??

Don’t forget this fact when you are lying, decieving, cheating and misbehaving and being disobedient to your parents that you have forgotten the fact that ALLAH WILL TAKE YOU!!!  DON’T FORGET THAT FACT!!  When your parents tell you to pray, when your parents ask you to do something and you ignore them and you think of doing something else DON’T FORGET THE FACT THAT ALLAH HAS CONNECTED YOUR WORSHIP, MADE YOUR WORSHIP, PART OF THAT WORSHIP, OBEDIENCE TO YOUR PARENTS AND BEING GOOD TO YOUR PARENTS…!!!

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Children/Parents Conflict or Harmony – Abu Khadeejah Abdul-Waahid

 والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله و بركاته
أبو بلال نعيم بن عبد المجيد

Related Links:

• How we should raise our children prt1 | prt2 – by Abu Tasneem Dawood Adeeb
• Advice for Educating the Muslim Children - By Umm ‘Abdillaah al-Waadi’iyyah, translated and narrated by Aboo ‘Abdullaah Hasan as-Sumaalee
  The first advice from the book entitled ‘Naseehatee lin-Nisaa’ (My Advice to the Women), authored by Umm ‘Abdillaah al-Waadi’iyyah, the daughter of the late Imaam of Yemen, al-‘Allaamah Muqbil Ibn Haadee al-Waadi’ee -rahimahullaah-  An introduction to some of the primary responsibilities of the husband and the wife in an Islaamic marriage, followed by 21 Points on Raising Children with proofs and evidences from the Qur’aan and authentic sunnah on the topic of raising children

Mothering And Fathering
Taalib Abdullah (hafidhahullaah)

I recall when some brothers came to Philly from Delaware and said that they had a da’wah center and wanted to do an event there. The day for the event came so I drove down with my audio equipment to a recreation center that had very good room for seating.

I didn’t really know Sheikh Taalib Abdullah (may Allah preserve him and his family) at the time of this event. And as is the case when you work an event you’re very busy focusing on your job so you are not always listening to the speakers when they are on the Mic. After this talk it was clear to me that Taalib Abdullah was a father and a husband and that he was speaking from experience.

I’ve been trying to keep a relationship to him ever since then. Listen to this talk and you will understand why.

Righteous parents are the keys to a righteous child by the will of Allah. Let’s choose righteousness.

Please remember our Muslim youth. Especially those who are fatherless. Share this lecture with them may Allah bless you and us with mercy and guidance.

By Abu Muhammad @ http://insightaudio.com

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Beware of Your Childrens Friends – Umar Quinn

Most people when they think about the rights of their children think that as long as they are providing them with a residence to live in, feeding their children, clothing their children, so-on-and-so-forth, they are fulfiling the rights of their children.

Your children hava right to an Islamic education!

Your children have a right to be taught this religion!

Your children have a right to correct tarbiyyah (nurturing upon Islam)!

Your children have a tremendous right upon YOU!

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Ibn al-Qayyim (Rahimahullah) narrated:

It is reported that in Egypt, there was a man who would maintain the mosques, making the call to prayer, etc. He was, by all outward means, an obedient person and devout worshipper.

One day, as he usually would, he ascended the minaret to make the call to prayer. At the base of the minaret, there was a Christian woman standing. He saw her, and was seduced by her looks. So, he descended the minaret, went to her, and entered her home. She said to him: “Who are you, and what do you want?”

He replied: “I want you.”

She said: “Why?”

He said: “You have enslaved my eyes, and you have captured my heart.”

She said: “I will never answer your desire in a doubtful or suspicious manner.”

He said: “Ok, so, I will marry you, then.”

She said: “You are a Muslim, and I am a Christian. My father will never allow me to marry you.”

He said: “So, I will become a Christian.”

She said: “If you wish to do so, go ahead.“

So, the man became a Christian in order to marry this woman, and lived with the woman’s family in her house. Later on that day, however, he was on the roof of the house. He fell from the roof and died without even having enjoyed his new bride. So, he lost the woman, and he lost his religion.”

Ad-Da’ wad-Dawa, page.127 of Ibn Al-Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah (Rahimahullaah)

Should I beat my daughter?
Shaykh Abdur Rahman Al Baraak (hafithahuAllah)

Questioner:

Oh Shaykh may Allah rectify us and our offspring. If I want to beat my daughter due to a problem that occurred between her and her sister or due to her wrecking the house, or not listening to what her mother tells her or not listening to me; when I beat her she becomes frighten and says: “Dear father may Allah preserve you, I ask my Lord to enter you into paradise.”

So I am concerned about this dua especially since I continue to beat her and I say to myself, “Say, oh Allah, Enter me into paradise though I beat her”.

Shaykh Baraak: Why do you beat her? Why? Do not beat her! Why do you beat her?!

Questioner: Due to her disobeying her mother and her father.

Shaykh Baraak: No, No, do not beat her. Discipline her with words. Beating is not the appropriate means. Hitting is for violating the rights of Allah, for violating the rights of Allah. If she does not pray after reaching the age of ten then she is lightly hit as a means of discipline.

(Your beating her) is incorrect.

Some of the people go to the extreme. Some of the people punish their children with fire! This is ignorance.

Discipline is not torture! It is not torture! Show mercy and you will be shown mercy.

Do not beat your daughter. Discipline her (with words).  (Such as saying) ‘Shame on you, Shame on you’, ‘This is not correct.’ ’What is this you are doing?’

Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
Presented to you by Markaz Tawheed was-Sunnah in Durham, NC
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Related Links:

• Showing Mercy Towards Children is a Means of Achieveing the Mercy of Allah
  From Umm ‘Abdillah Al-Waadi’iyyah’s “My Advice to the Women”
• Your Flesh and Blood – The Rights of Children – by Shaikh Muhammad ‘Umar Baazmool
  This book is a complete translation of the concise booklet “Fildhaat-ul-Akbaad Huqooq-ul-Awlaad” (Your Flesh and Blood: A Lecture on the Rights of Children). The source used for the translation was the 2006 Daar-ul-Istiqaamah Edition. The origin of this publication in the Arabic language was a lecture the Shaikh gave which was then transcribed and published in book format. All quotes and narrations are referenced in the original publication.
• check other important articles on Muslim Children @ http://abdurrahman.org/children/