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Is it permissible for a lady to pray to Allaah to be granted the death of a martyr? – Shaykh Saalih Muhammad al-Luhaydaan

Is it permissible for a lady to pray to Allaah to be granted the death of a martyr?

Q.​The questioner is asking is it permissible for a lady to pray to Allaah to be granted the death of a martyr?

A.​The shaykh (haafidhahullaah) said it is permissible for a female to request from Allaah (azza wa jall) to be granted the death of a martyr. It is not a condition that in order for a person to die as a martyr that they have to fight. For example, the Prophet (Sallaahu Alayhi wa Sallam) mentioned a female that dies during a labour, her death is the death of a martyr. The Prophet (Sallaahu alayhi wa Sallam) questioned the companions, who do you think is a martyr? They said that a person that dies whilst fighting. The Prophet (Sallaahu alayhi wa Sallam) responded by saying then that means the martyrs in my ummah are very few. That means the martyrs in my ummah are very few. Rather whoever dies trying to establish the word of Allaah to be the upmost throughout the earth then this person is a martyr. And the Prophet (Sallaahu Alayhi wa Sallam) continued… Whoever dies because of an illness in his stomach, he is a martyr. Then he continued… a female that dies during childbirth she is a martyr. The individual who dies while drowning he or she is a martyr. An individual who dies in a fire they are a martyr. An individual who dies because of a building or something collapsing upon them they likewise are martyrs. The shaykh mentioned (haafidhahullaahu ta’alaa) but these are individuals who died upon tawheed. An individual who dies whilst committing shirk would not be considered a martyr even if they died by one of these previously mentioned means.

Shaykh Saalih Muhammad al-Luhaydaan (May Allaah preserve him) (Kitaab-ut-Tawheed Class, Q&A Session 06-10-2012, Riyadh)

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The Nikah Has Many Benefits And Is A Protection From Fornication – Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan

The Nikah Has Many Benefits And Is A Protection From Fornication
Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan [Hafidhahullah]
النكاح فيه مصالح كثيرة و هو عصمة من الزنا – مقطع لفيضلة الشيخ العلامة صالح الفوزان (15/3/1434)

Translated by Abu ‘Abdullah Naasir Hussain [Hafidhahullah]

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The Nikah is from the ways of Allah with regard to his creation, between the children of Adam, male and female.

With it there are great benefits, from them: chastity of the two spouses, one to the other; to fulfill what is required from the husband towards his wife; the husband taking care of his wife; and protecting her. From it is also the fulfilling of the desires of both sexes and from it is having children. There are many benefits from Nikah

The most important thing is that it keeps you chaste from adultery, from fornication and the loss of lineage, and from the corruption of moral uprightness. There is the protection of one’s health.

As for adultery and fornication then their end place is in epidemics and in lethal illnesses, as is well-known.

وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا ٣٢

And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [i.e. anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him).

[Surah Al-'Isrā':32]

With it there is the loss of lineage, the spread of illnesses, the loss of modesty and chastity. With it there are great harms; fornication, we seek refuge with Allah, what an evil way. The harms of fornication are not limited.

With Nikah, there is a protection from fornication and from its harms, and all praises are due to Allah. Nikah produces offspring. As for fornication then it is a loss. The offspring from fornication have no father and no lineage, and we seek refuge with Allah. Lost… This is from the disadvantages of fornication.

He (Allah) didn’t say don’t fornicate, he said don’t come close to it, ‘don’t come near to it’, i.e. stay away from the means that lead to fornication. Such as: looking, the seclusion with a man, the traveling of the woman by herself, her showing off her beauty. These are means that lead to falling into fornication. Allah has not allowed them, he has prohibited them.

If there is leniency in these means then fornication will take place. If there is leniency in these means then fornication will take place, because the desires are present. Desires are present between men and women. If they sat together and mixed then fornication is close. Shaytaan is present, if a man secluded himself with a woman, then shaytaan is the third one amongst them.

They say you have bad thoughts and that you are pessimists. We are not pessimists, this is the reality. This is the reality and if these means that Allah has prohibited are violated, then fornication will occur, no doubt.

Even the righteous man, the religious one, there is a danger upon him from the woman. Especially if she was beautiful and he secluded himself with her or traveled with her or she joined him at work. Or if she sat with him in the classroom, or in an exam, or in meetings. Or if she sat with him on the television, or on the radio, as his colleague, i.e. a presenter next to him, and she is beautified and he is a youth. Far is Allah from all imperfections. Do you bring petrol next to fire? Petrol is by itself and the fire is by itself. You bring her next to him! This is like that; no it is worse than petrol and fire.

Desires… we seek refuge with Allah, desires are strong. So for this reason Allah (the Exalted, Most High), has placed barriers that prevent falling in to fornication. If they are preserved, fornication is lessened or cut-off. If they are lost, then fornication will occur without a doubt. No matter what, even if they are religious or modest, the children of Adam are not saved from fornication except by the means that prevent it.

Taken from the last class on the explanation of the book, Mukhtasar Zaadul Ma’aad.
Shaikh Salih al-Fawzan (حفظه الله تعالى).
Sunday, 15th Rabee’ Al-Awwal 1434.
Translated by Abu ‘Abdullah Naasir Hussain [Hafidhahullah].

The Advice of Shaykh Al-Albaanee to Women who act like men

Question:

O our Shaykh, we have heard that some of the women present within some of the universities, schools, and colleges or some of the women who deliver lectures, (give) lessons or even recite the Qur’aan specifically on the morning broadcasts (we have heard that) these women’s husbands are never able to enjoy them because they are Mutarajjilaat (i.e. they imitate men or are masculine). We would like some clarity from you as it relates to this question.

Answer:

The principle as it relates to this issue is a poor upbringing. From the reasons for the poor upbringing is the corruption of the society and corruption of the curriculums which the education of the men and women or male and female youth is predicated upon their foundation. That is because the female students in the schools, I am almost certain, have not heard the likes of his (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) statement:

لعن الله الرَجُلة من النساء

“May Allaah curse the manly women.”

Likewise, the other Hadeeth which ‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) narrated saying: “Allaah’s Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) cursed the men who resemble women and the women who resemble men.” I believe that the female students who graduate from the high schools or from that which is above that, then likes of this Hadeeth or that Hadeeth (the first one) has not crossed their ears. And if it be that either of them has crossed their ears on any day, then it is from that which goes in one ear and out of the other ear. Because the curriculums which are taught or the lessons which are given on the basis of them do not allow the teacher, even if she may be religious, to go over the likes of this subject.

It is known within the legislation, and according to the people who have knowledge regarding it, that the basic principle with the man is that he goes out of his home to work for the benefit of his family and his children. On the contrary, the basic principle regarding the woman is that she remains sheltered within her house and that she does not go out of it acting in accordance with the statement of her Lord, the Blessed and High:

وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَى

“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance…” (Al-Ahzaab 33:33)

So when the woman came to be like the man; going out in the morning, and returning in the evening; then she came to be, in that, similar to the man whether she knows it or not and whether she realizes it or not.

Due to this, we have not returned in these later times to seeing the adolescent virgin girls who are ashamed to let their vision fall upon a man. Rather, she, from the severity of her modesty, would cast her vision to the ground to look at her footsteps while she is walking. We have not returned to seeing this young lady who, the likes of her, was well known; even during the times of pre-Islamic ignorance, not to mention during the era of the early, radiant, pure Al-Islaam. In this vein, there has come within the Saheeh, in description of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) that he: “Was shyer than a virgin within her dwelling.”

This virgin to whom the leader of mankind (alayhis-salatu was-salaam) has been compared in his shyness, we have not returned to hearing about her in this time of ours. That is because in most instances the women resemble the men. There is no doubt that there are many reasons for this. From the most prominent of them, is the rule of the governments of the Kuffaar over many of the Islaamic lands, so that their habits, traditions, tastes, and their manners which are contrary to the upright disposition have spread therein. So the generations of people have inherited them and the male and female professors who claim to guide (the youth) have accepted them. All of these (people) have spread amongst this upcoming generation of young men and young ladies what they refer to as equality between women and men. So this is from the reasons from the spread of the scanty amount of modesty amongst the women which has made many of them to be masculine. From that in which there is no doubt is that the manliness of the woman makes her have a presumptive personality in front of her husband; perhaps raise her voice at him, and maybe she will humiliate him in front of some of his or her relatives (out of supposed) superiority on her part over her husband.

Where is this as it relates to that which has come in the farewell advice of the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) to the man regarding the women? This is substantiated by his (alayhis-Salaam) statement using a justification which is in complete opposition to the upbringing which we see in this present time. That is his (alayhis-Salaam) statement:

استوصوا بالنساء خيرًا ، فإنهن عوانٍ عندكم

“Treat the women well, for they are ‘awaan to you.”

The point of reference is that the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) when he ordered with good treatment to the women in this Hadeeth, he (alayhis-Salaam) justified that by his statement:

فإنهن عوانٍ عندكم

“…for they are ‘awaan to you.”

Meaning, they are like slaves. The slave is not able to do anything with his master. Likewise, is the Muslim woman who conducts herself with the correct Islaamic manners. She is, with her husband, like a slave.

Due to this, he (alayhis-Salaam) feared for the men to be excessive, in this befitting description, towards the women and thus wield authority over them, compelling them, and oppressing them. For this reason he ordered with good treatment towards the women and me mentioned a reason for that; and that (reason) is his statement:

فإنهن عوانٍ عندكم

“…for they are ‘awaan to you.”

The women today have become such that the men are not in need of advice regarding them. Rather, the affair has changed and become such that the women are in need of being advised to treat the men well because they have become independent in their jobs and in their liberties. We often hear from some of them: “There is no difference therein between me and my husband. He is a spouse and I am a spouse. He is a partner and I am a partner with him in life.”

So it is upon the Muslim women who cling to their religion that if they are tried with anything from mixing with this society, that they try to save themselves from being affected by anything from this filth which many of the women have fallen into because of what we have mentioned from corruption in the upbringing and corruption of the society. This is a reminder and the reminder benefits the believer. As-Salaamu Alaykum.

Questioner:

May Allaah reward you with good, wa Alaykum As-Salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh.


How to interact with your wife – Shaykh Salih ibn Abdul Aziz Aali Shaykh

How to interact with your wife
by Shaykh Salih ibn Abdul Aziz Aali Shaykh

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Shaykh Salih ibn Abdul Aziz Aali Shaykh may Allah preserve him said:

The third category: The man interaction with his wife

Allah جل وعلا has obligated upon the man similar to that which He has obligated upon the woman. Allah جل وعلا said:

وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ [البقرة:228

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]

Allah جل وعلا has made the rights of the man primary, but He has given the woman rights just has He has given the man rights. Allah جل وعلا said in this verse:

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.

The Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ gave many advices concerning the women.

There are some people who marry and they do not learn the regulations concerning social interactions with the wife. How should he talk to her? How should he request from her? What are the obligations that the wife must perform?

On the contrary, he only interacts with her based upon his sheer desires. He treats her according to his wishes and sometimes based upon his manhood and based upon his strength. And he does not do that which is Islamic binding upon him.  He does not learn the legislated regulations concerning social interaction and dealing with the wife.

And how beautiful is the statement of Ibn Abbass رضي الله عنهما concerning this verse!  He said concerning the statement of Allah جل وعلا:

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.

He said: ‘Verily I do not like to demand all of my rights from my wife such that it will become obligatory upon me to give her all of her rights that she requests from me.

And also he used to order with beautification; meaning the man beautifying himself for his wife.

He said:

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.

Therefore if the man requests that his wife beautify herself for him, and that she remove any foul odor and that she is beautified when with him; then likewise it is obligatory upon him to interact with her with that which Allah جل وعلا has made obligatory.

Look at the condition of the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ with his wives when they request maintenance from him. He said to them kind gentle words that preoccupied for a period of time until Allah جل وعلا reveal verses concerning this in Soorah Al Ahzab.

In many instances the man’s interaction with his wife is according to desires and according to the desires of manhood.

But some of the people are diligent upon interacting with their family according to the appropriate legislation, and this is what is obligatory so this is what we wanted to point out because this is a type of interaction that many people are void of.

On the other extreme as it relates to interacting with the wives, some people believe that good interaction is to give his wife free rein. And he fulfills every desire that the woman has without looking to see if that which she requested is permissible or impermissible, and without looking to see if it is something she has a right to do or not. It is something that will be good for her or is it something that will not be good for her? Is there a benefit for her it that or not?

(The men) are negligent in this affair to the extent that the women conduct themselves freeing like they are the men.

No doubt that these are two images on opposite sides of the spectrum.

  • The one who is harsh and cruel
  • The one who gives his wife free rein and it is as though his wife has become the man.

And the resolution for that, rather the balance and the guidelines are for the person to strive to be with his wife according to the guidelines of the legislation.

Allah جل وعلا ordered that the women should be given their rights; likewise He ordered that the man should be given their rights. And the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ, from the final advices he gave during his life, was advice concerning the rights of the women.

During his sermon on the day of Arafat, during his tremendous sermon which he bided farewell to the people he said: ‘Be kind to the women because verily they are in your trust.’ Meaning like captives

But this does not mean that he leaves the affairs up to her to do however she wants, and it does not mean that the person is negligent concerning the commands of Allah; rather he should be in accordance with that which Allah جل وعلا wants.

The man requests things from his wife but it is befitting that his interactions with his wife be in accordance with the statement of Ibn Abbass رضي الله عنهما.

He said I do not like to demand all of my rights from my wife such that it will become obligatory upon me to give her all of her rights that she requests from me.

On the other hand, there is the interaction of the wife with her husband. Allah has given the man a degree over the woman. He said:

But men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]

Allah جل وعلا gave man a preference based upon him providing maintenance. Thus He gave him preference in that which is specific to the man; thus man is the one responsible for providing maintenance and he is responsible for commanding the good and forbidding the wrong.

And it is upon the wife to obey the husband in that which is obedience to Allah, she should obey him in that which is correct and she should not disobey him.

Such that no one he hates should enter his home and she should not leave his home unless he is in agreement. And if the wife preserves the husband’s rights upon her then she has performed her obligations.

And it appears in an authentic narration: “If the woman prays her five daily prayers, and fast (the month of Ramadan) and obey her husband, then it will be said to her, ‘enter paradise from any door you choose.’”

And there is no doubt the it is a requirement for the woman to obey her husband and it is an obligation upon her as it relates to her interaction with her husband that she is obedient and pleased and she should be the one who concedes and yields. And she should not make the man the one who submits to her, and the one who is submissive to her, because in this action there is corruption.

And the judges have spoken about the affair of the husband obeying his wife and what occurs when some of the women rule their husbands. The end result is that the woman is not content with her husband, the one who obeys her, and has some good interactions with her; rather she makes him obey her in everything that she desires. Thus the end result is that she hates him, because the woman by her nature needs someone who will take care of her. So if the man takes responsibility for her and interacts with her according to the commands of Allah جل وعلا then both of them will have a good result.

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Guidelines on Children’s Clothes with Pictures and on Dolls – Sheikh Muhammad Naasir-ud-Deen Al-Albaanee (may Allah have mercy on him)

Guidelines on Children’s Clothes with Pictures and on Dolls
Sheikh Muhammad Naasir-ud-Deen Al-Albaanee (may Allah have mercy on him)
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Question:

Here, one of the sisters asks: What is the ruling on clothing children with clothes which contains pictures of things which have souls if it is not possible to erase these pictures from them, because by erasing them (the pictures), the garment is spoiled?

So, the Sheikh replied:

Answer:

Without doubt, it has to be said, that for the likes of this question, the purchasing of the garment which is illustrated with pictures, has to have definitely already occurred by mistake or negligence from the father or mother who bought (it), because the fundamental principle is that it is not appropriate for the Muslims that they purchase clothes which have pictures on them. However, a person may be unaware, and he may be negligent, and they may forget…and he may forget and he may purchase a garment, (and) after he returns with it to his house it becomes clear to him that there is a full prohibited picture on it. So, in this situation also, this question (above) is not to be found. It is imperative that another introduction precede it (this question), and it is…the changing of the garment for another garment from the place where it was purchased from, (whereby this new garment) does not have on it a prohibited picture. So if… so if it was not possible for the father or the mother to change it (for another garment), then here in the third stage (of this situation) this question comes about.

So, I remind about these two introductions (which should be placed before the question) because the majority of the people are heedless when they proceed to the markets. They buy everyday necessities (which are made) from different materials, from them which are the likes of those things which are spread out (carpets, rugs, mats etc.) and blankets or what resembles that, those (things) which are predominantly illustrated with pictures and decorated. And they do not pay any attention to them at all (these materials which have pictures) and they buy them with the excuse that these materials are not respected (because they are sat on, slept on etc.) and are not hung up. So, we say: It is imperative upon the Muslims that they be those who are awake (and) not those who are asleep, and that they pay attention to the plot of the disbelievers, those who are invading them in the midst of their own house with diverse ways – and that which is from them (these ways) are these clothes which are illustrated with pictures.And it (this matter) is mentioned bit by bit, specifically if the people are in need of it. And in a manner more specific when they are made heedless through some of the erroneous guidelines, through some of the fataawa (religious edicts) which are not based upon authentic proof, like (the fataawa for) these dolls and children’s toys which cram up the markets and the mothers go and buy for the boys and girls many a thing from these amusements in the name of them (being) toys for children or toys for girls.

So, it is imperative that we remember something here, and it is that the toys (i.e. dolls) which are allowed to be used for the small children… rather I say for girls only and not for the males from the children, that there is not out there any proof for the permissibility (of these toys/dolls) except the hadeeth of ‘Aaishah (may Allah be pleased with her) which says that she used to send for the daughters from the daughters of her neighbours to come to her and she would play with them with girls’ toys and the Messenger (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa ‘ala aalihi wa sallam) would help her in that and consent to her (doing that) and he would not rebuke her. Rather, indeed he (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa ‘ala aalihi wa sallam) [entered upon her] one time and saw amongst her toys a horse with two wings. So he (‘alaihi salaam) said to ‘Aaishah, playing about with her: ‘A horse which has two wings?!’ She said: ‘O’ Messenger of Allah, have you not heard’ or ‘has it not reached you that the horse of Sulaymaan (‘alaihi salaam) had wings?’ and he (‘alaihi salaatu wa salaam) laughed and he affirmed her in that. This hadeeth is the proof which makes it possible for us to rely upon it in allowing girl’s toys (i.e. dolls) with images and sculptured forms.

However, there is a principle of fiqh (jurisprudence) out there that every text which comes and carries within its folds a ruling which is an exception from the general proofs, then this ruling is halted at and it is not increased upon because it is against the fundamental principle. And that which was like that, i.e. that which was against the fundamental principle, then an analogy (qiyaas) is not made from that which was irregular to the fundamental principle, (and) because that which was against (an) analogy (being made with it), cannot (then) be used to make (a further) analogy based upon it, and indeed it is but connected (back) to the general principle.

If this meaning is clear to all, inshaa’Allah, then at this time we say: The toys which Sayyidah ‘Aaishah (may Allah be pleased with her) [had], they were from that type which some of the other women engaged in, in diverting the attention of their children away from requesting food and drink in the state of them fasting. And indeed they (the women) used to take for them images from coloured wool, from cotton and give them to those who were fasting from the youngsters, diverting their attention away from requesting food and drink. This type from the images, this type from the toys of the children, it was a local (type of image and toy) and it was a domestic [i.e. in the house] (type of image and toy), and it was not imported from outside the Islamic households, let alone being imported from the lands of disbelief and misguidance which manufacture toys and figures which are in accordance with their tastes, with their habits and their customs, and which do not agree in any way whatsoever with the habits of the Muslims and their customs and the rulings of their share ‘ah. And from that which shows you this, is what you see in these (imported) images, from the (imported) figures (which) sometimes are small (in size) and sometimes are big (in size), until (even) a young girl (who) can just about hold the doll and (yet) it is the same length as her and the same width as her and it has blond hair and clipped (in its hair) from the sides like the male children. And it (the imported doll) has a garment which are shorts i.e. the garment which has no legs to it, and it has the short garment which reveals the thighs (of the dolls). These sculptured forms contain the customs of those disbelievers and their habits and their mannerisms.

So, if we entered these sculptured forms into our houses, then first that (shows) that we are pleased with what they contain (i.e. from the customs, habits and mannerisms of those who made them)…firstly…, and secondly, that we are teaching our children (those) mannerisms and that we are bringing them up since their tender age upon finding pleasant these objects which are mutually contradictory to the Islamic clothing, and in particular that which is related to the men. And due to this, it is imperative upon us to beware of these imported clothes from the lands of disbelief with their [different] types and their (different) forms and their (different) purposes, and from that are the clothes of young children.

So we, with great sorrow, every time we enter a house we find the children of our brothers, those who adhere – according to our claim – to the Book of our Lord and the Sunnah of our Prophet, despite all of that, we find that the children have been dressed in clothes which have pictures on them and lewd pictures. Then, this calamity has spread until we have begun to clothe our youths who have passed the age of responsibility with shirts which have pictures on the back and on the front. And (when) sometimes we pray the Friday prayer, there comes to the Friday prayer, as you know, the one who does not pray except on the day of Friday, and most of his life he spends in play and amusement and despite that he (stills) attends the Friday prayer. So, we see him praying and behind him i.e. on the back of his shirt, there is a picture of a woman with her hair flowing and visible from her is her arm and her neck and the likes of that, and we face this picture (whilst praying).

These strange acts of heedlessness from the Muslims, I think that that which helps in spreading these shameful things and these Islamic violations is the saying that the prohibited images are indeed only but firstly, the three- dimensional images which have a shadow. As for that which is not three- dimensional, then these they claim are permissible and allowed and especially if they were not formed by the hand but were rather but formed with a photo camera or a printer. So, these are from the whisperings of shaytaan which he has thrown amongst humanity in this time and beautified for them (the fact) that there is nothing wrong with them.

So, it is upon the Muslims therefore, to stay away from buying any type from the types of clothes which have these pictures on them due to what we have mentioned earlier.

And in conclusion I say in response to that question (asked above): If the affair revolves around scraping off (the picture from) the garment and wasting the benefit from it and around seeking pleasure from it (the garment) despite its obvious and hidden shortcomings…I say if…., then seeking benefit (from it) is permissible. However, I believe that the believing woman and the one who with her capability is truly the mistress of the house, (should) erase the traces of that picture by scraping (it) off and with embroidery whereby the head is wiped out because the affair is as he (‘alaihi as salaam) said:

‘Indeed, the picture is but the head’.

So, if the head is wiped out, the picture is wiped out, even if some of its traces remain. And with this has the answer been completed inshaa’Allah.

Taken from the cassette entitled: Tawjeehaat Lil-Mar’atil- Muslimah (guidelines for the Muslim woman) of Sheikh Muhammad Naasir-ud-Deen Al-Albaanee (may Allah have mercy on him).

Translated by: Abu Yusuf, Sagheer Ibn ‘Abdir-Rasheed Al-Kashmeeree

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The Honeymoon should be Continuous – Shaikh Uthaymin

The Honeymoon should be Continuous
By Sheikh Uthaymin

Sheikh Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, said

 Some of the people say that it is possible to take from the statement of the messenger of Allah peace and blessings are upon him, “so that you can taste his honey and he can taste your honey”, that we can take what is called a honeymoon so is this correct?

[Translator’s Footnote: Originally "honeymoon" simply described the period just after the wedding when things are at their sweetest; it is assumed to wane in a month. (Wikipedia)]

Yes this is correct. But the honey is not just for a month if you remain with the woman; rather the honey will be continuous not just for a month.

As for traveling during this month to lands that are not befitting to be traveled to then this is a waste of money. And then we hear about some of the people who travel to outside countries and they go to swimming pools, night clubs, and theaters, and his wife is uncovered, revealing her head, chest and arms, and so on and so forth; and with Allah refuge is sought.

This only occurs from someone who has changed the favor of Allah into ingratitude; rather the reward for this blessing is for the person to increase in thanking Allah and to live with his family in a good manner.

But what is the ruling on the one who says, ‘instead of this I will go with my wife to umrah, (for the honeymoon)?

We say this is good, but it is not good. Because it is obvious that the origin of this is taken from the non Muslims; we did not know of this during the time of the previous scholars or during the time of the pious predecessors and none of the people of knowledge spoke about doing this, therefore this has been obtained from the non Muslims; this is one angle.

From another angle, I fear that if a long time passes by and the people are making marriage a legitimate reason for making umrah then it will be said, it is the Sunnah for everyone who gets married to make umrah. Therefore we would have invented for an act of worship, a reason that has not been legislated, and this is a problem. Because if a long time passes the condition of the people will change and they will forget the beginning.

For this reason we say, have the honeymoon in your room, in your home and make the honeymoon forever not one month; and the praises belong to Allah for wellbeing.

Translated by Rasheed Barbee

http://sahab.net/forums/showthread.php?t=381402

Taken fromhttp://mtws.posterous.com/the-honeymoon-should-be-continuous

A Severe Warning Against Wedding Pictures and Video Tapes – Shaykh Uthaymeen

Wedding Pictures
A warning from Shaykh Uthaymeen

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O slaves of Allah verily we have been plagued for some time now by a great tribulation done by some people whom Allah has favored with marriage. And this is their taking pictures of the wedding party; pictures with the camera and perhaps with tapes which can be placed in the television and these are the video tapes. This is the affliction which we have been plagued with. And I do not know the intent of these people.

Do they do this in order to increase the love between the husband and his wife? Or do they do this because that is more pleasing to the wife from the husband? Or do they do this to announce the wedding? Or do they do this because it draws them closer to Allah the Exalted? Or do they do this because it is ingratitude to Allah for this favor?

None of these worldly and religious benefits are obtained by way of this reprehensible impermissible action. Rather the only thing that is obtained from this is exposing their disobedience to Allah the Exalted, and removing the veil of shyness from the husband and the wife, and from the community of women.

These pictures which are taken will be exposed for the onlookers anytime they want to look at them. Does it please you to expose your women in front of the immoral people? Does it please you to expose your women in front of the people every time someone wants to show your sister’s face, or your daughter’s face, or your wife’s face? Does that please you O believers?

Do you have jealousy? Do you have belief in Allah? Do you fear Allah’s punishment? Do you not fear that the favor that was sent upon you will be changed into a punishment? Do you not fear the Creator of the earth and the heavens? Are you not afraid that you will be united with the enemies of Allah from the disbelievers and those who resemble them? Because the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم  said:

مَنْ تَشَبَّهَ بِقَوْمٍ فَهُوَ مِنْهُمْ

Whoever resembles a people then he is from them.

Are you pleased for the husband and wife to be punished through hatred and animosity between the two of them until the family bond dissolves? All of these affairs are possible to occur even if we are given respite while opening disobeying our Lord. This is only respite from Allah the Exalted. (And the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم  said:)

إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَيُمْلِي لِلظَّالِمِ ، حَتَّى إِذَا أَخَذَهُ لَمْ يُفْلِتْهُ

Verily Allah grants the oppressor respite until He seizes him He does not release him.

And the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم recited:

وَكَذَلِكَ أَخْذُ رَبِّكَ إِذَا أَخَذَ الْقُرَى وَهِيَ ظَالِمَةٌ إِنَّ أَخْذَهُ أَلِيمٌ شَدِيدٌ

And thus is the seizure of your Lord when He seizes the cities while they are committing wrong. Indeed, His seizure is painful and severe. (Soorah Hud 11:102)

O people think, and use your intelligence concerning this affair. What is the result, what are its benefits, what are its harms? Verily Allah has given you intellects He did not make you like animals who do not know what is being done to them. They are driven to their place of slaughter and it goes submissively, and it is taken to pasture so it goes submissively.

You have intellects, with your intellects you perceive that which is beneficial and that which is harmful. And Allah has perfected His favor upon you by sending down upon you His Book and by what He revealed to His Messenger Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم. This affair is horrid. This affair is known by the legislation, known by the intellect, perceived by the senses. It is not hidden from anyone except the one whom Allah has erased away the light of his insight and diminished the jealous from his heart and decreased the religion from his heart.

O Muslims, O you who have jealousy, reflect upon this affair which your scholars have prohibited you from. Do not allow this blessing to sweep you into an abyss. This affair is evil, this affair is haram, and this affair is a prelude to corruption, this affair gradually leads to haram enjoyment and pleasure. Because everyone who takes these pictures whether on video tapes or by camera, he is able to look and enjoy these pictures anytime he wants to look at them.

This issue is very clear. But where are those designated guardians those who have direct responsibility over these women. And where are the guardians over the general affairs, those who have the ability to discipline those who do this with a discipline that will act as a deterrent for them and others. It is upon us to be strong in the religion of Allah. And it is upon us to not be concerned with anyone other than Allah the Exalted. And it is upon us to establish the limits of Allah. And verily I swear that whoever establishes the limits of Allah, for the sake of Allah, according to what the laws of Allah requires then Allah will assist him against all of his enemies.

O believers, O designated guardians, O general guardians, verily it is upon us all to come together to eliminate this evil corrupt phenomenon. By Allah this corruption is not a light matter even if some of the people take it lightly. Enjoying the wedding only occurs by showing gratitude for the blessings of Allah and establishing the ordinances that the legislation allows and not going beyond them or exceeded the limits of Allah or His laws.

Allah the Exalted said:

وَلَوْ أَنَّ أَهْلَ الْقُرَى آمَنُوا وَاتَّقَوْا لَفَتَحْنَا عَلَيْهِمْ بَرَكَاتٍ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَلَكِنْ كَذَّبُوا فَأَخَذْنَاهُمْ بِمَا كَانُوا يَكْسِبُونَ * أَفَأَمِنَ أَهْلُ الْقُرَى أَنْ يَأْتِيَهُمْ بَأْسُنَا بَيَاتاً وَهُمْ نَائِمُونَ * أَوَأَمِنَ أَهْلُ الْقُرَى أَنْ يَأْتِيَهُمْ بَأْسُنَا ضُحىً وَهُمْ يَلْعَبُونَ * أَفَأَمِنُوا مَكْرَ اللَّهِ فَلا يَأْمَنُ مَكْرَ اللَّهِ إِلَّا الْقَوْمُ الْخَاسِرُونَ الأعراف:96-99

And if only the people of the cities had believed and feared Allah, We would have opened upon them blessings from the heaven and the earth; but they denied [the Messengers], so We seized them for what they were earning.”

Then, did the people of the cities feel secure from Our punishment coming to them at night while they were asleep?

Or did the people of the cities feel secure from Our punishment coming to them in the morning while they were at play?

Did they then feel secure against the plan of Allah? None feels secure from the plan of Allah except the people who are the losers. (Soorah Al A’raf: 7:96-99)

Verily it is upon us, the believers; a responsibility. We are not like those who disbelieve, and enjoy themselves and eat as cattle eat, while the fire is their destination. Verily it is upon us believers, those who thank Allah for favoring us with Imaan, there is a great responsibility upon us that we implement the laws of Allah. This is the freedom that is beneficial freedom not unrestricted freedom at the expense of others.

Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
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Woe to Every Unjust Husband – Shaykh Ibn al-Uthaimeen

Woe to Every Unjust Husband
Taken from Sheikh Uthamin’s tafsir of Sura Al Mutaffiffun (chapter 83)

Allah says what can be translated as

1 Woe to Al Mutaffififun (those who give less in measure and weight)
2 Those who when they have to receive by measure from men demand full measure
3 And when they have to give by measure or weight to men give less than due
4 Do they not think that they will be resurrected (for reckoning)
5 On a great day
6 The day when (all) mankind will stand before the Lord of the Alamin (all that exits)

Sheikh Uthamin said concerning the explanation of Chapter Al-Mutaffinfin (Woe) The word woe is repeated in the Quran many times and according to what is most correct it is a statement of threat by which Allah threatens those whom oppose His command or indulge in what He has prohibited them from.

And the prohibition is mentioned in the sentence following the threat. Therefore in this case Allah the Exalted says woe be to Al Mutaffififun

So who are these Al Mutaffififun?

These Al Mutaffififun are explained in the next verse He said :

(Those who when they have to receive by measure from men demand full measure)
(And when they have to give by measure or weight to men they give less than what is due)
(Those who when they have to receive by measure from men demand full measure)

Meaning when they buy from the people that which is weighed they demand from the people their rights in full without any deficiency (And when they have to give by measure or weight to men they give less than what is due) But if they are weighing or they are the ones selling the weighed meat or selling something which is measured they give a weight that is deficient (they give less than what is due) Therefore they demand their rights in full and they are deficient in giving others their rights So they combined two affairs they combine greed and stinginess. Greed in demanding his rights in full without any leniency or forgiveness and stinginess because he does not give the full weight that is incumbent upon him. This example that Allah the Exalted mentions concerning the weigh and measure is just an example therefore it also applies to everything which is similar to this. Therefore everyone who demands their rights in full when they are due to receive rights but they don’t give full rights when the rights are due from them then they are included in these noble verses.

An example of this is the husband who wants from his wife that she gives him all of his rights in full and he is not lenient in any of his rights. But when it is time to give his wife her rights then he is lackadaisical and he does not give her that which is due her. And there are so many complaints from the women about this type of husband. And with Allah refuge is sought.

To the extent that many of the husbands want from their wives that they give them all of their rights but they don’t give their wives all of their rights and possibility the husbands will fall short in giving their wives most of the basic rights such as spending on them and living with them in kindness and other than that.

Verily oppressing another person is more severe than a person oppressing himself concerning the rights of Allah because the person oppressing himself concerning the rights of Allah is beneath the will of Allah if it is a sin other that shirk. If Allah wants to He will forgive the person and if He wants to He will punish the person. But in regards to the rights of the people there has to be compensation given. And for this reason the Prophet peace and blessing are upon him said (to his companions) who do you consider to be the bankrupt person. They said the one from us who does not have any currency or any possessions.

He (the Prophet peace and blessings are upon him) said Verily the bankrupt person from my nation is the one who will come on the Day of Judgment with good deeds the size of a mountain (meaning a lot of good deeds). So he will come with these good deeds but he has oppressed this person and he abused this person and he hit this person and he took the wealth from this person. Therefore this person he oppressed will take from his good deeds and that person will take from his good deeds and this person will take from his good deeds and if his good deeds run out before he repays that which he owes then he will be given the sins of those he wronged and their sins will be flung on top of him and then he will be flung into the fire.

So my advice to those who are lackadaisical or negligent concerning the rights of there spouses is that they fear Allah the Mighty and Majestic because the Prophet peace and blessings are upon him advised with this during the biggest gathering that the Islamic world witnessed during the lifetime of the Messenger of Allah peace and blessings are upon him on the day of Arafat during the farewell pilgrimage.

He said fear Allah concerning the women because verily you took them as a trust from Allah and you have been permitted to have intimate relationships with them by the word of Allah.

Also you will find that some of the parents desire for their children to give them all of their rights in a perfect manner. So they want for their children to honor them and give them their rights and to give them money and to give physical help and everything type of honor possible but he is neglectful concerning his children and he does not give his children their rights. We say that this person is Al Mutaf (those who give less in measure and weight) That father who wants for his children to honor him to the maximum all the while he is neglectful concerning their rights we say to him you are Al Mutaf (those who give less in measure and weight).

We say to him remember the statement of Allah the Exalted (what can be translated as)

1 Woe to Al Mutaffififun (those who give less in measure and weight)
2 Those who when they have to receive by measure from men demand full measure
3 And when they have to give by measure or weight to men give less than due

Translated by Rasheed Barbee
The following is a summary translation taken from http://www.ibnothaimeen.com
http://mtws.posterous.com/woe-to-every-unjust-husband

Baby Showers: Permissible or Not? – Shaykh Abdul-Qaadir Al-Junayd

Questioner: As-Salaamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullaah, Yaa Shaykh.

Shaykh: Wa Alaykum As-Salaam wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh;

Questioner: How are you, Shaykh?

Shaykh: Hayaakumullaah.

Questioner: Hayakumullaah. Shaykh, I asked you a question yesterday, about an issue…

Shaykh: You asked me what?

Questioner: I asked you a question yesterday about an issue, however, I wish to repeat the question for clarity.

Shaykh: Go ahead.

Questioner: The intent behind the question is as follows: What is the ruling regarding the events that are held wherein gifts are given to the parents on the occasion of a new child; it is the event which is held when the mother is within her 7th or 8th month of pregnancy wherein she invites the sisters, and they buy clothes for the new baby. This is something, O Shaykh, which is known within this land to be from the disbelievers. So is it permissible for the Muslim woman or no?

Shaykh: My brother, may Allaah bless you, a known custom within the lands of the Muslims is that when the woman gives birth to a daughter or son, then the people visit her to congratulate her and supplicate for this baby; and they bring some gifts with them. the women gather within the house for what occasion? (It is) the occasion of this new baby. They bring with them some food, gifts, and the like. This is known with the lands of the Muslims. Is that which is with you done in this manner?

Questioner: No, Shaykh.

Shaykh: Or is it as you mentioned, they gather a month or two months before the birth?

Questioner: Yes, like this, Shaykh. Here in America they do it when the mother is in her 7th or 8th month of pregnancy.

Shaykh: Na’am. This manner (of doing it) who was the first ones to do it?

Questioner: I didn’t hear you, Shaykh.

Shaykh: This manner, of doing it a month or two before (the birth); where did it come from?

Questioner: From the disbelievers in this land.

Shaykh: All of them (the disbelievers) do it in this manner?

Questioner: Ay Na’am.

Shaykh: Then if the manner is like this, then it is not permissible for the Muslim to do it because it is from the perspective of imitation (of the disbelievers). If the Muslims do it in this manner; before the birth by a two months whereas this is the custom of the disbelievers, then it is not permissible for the Muslims to do it. As for celebrating after the birth; and giving gifts for the child, then this is known amongst the Muslims as well as the non-Muslims. Clear?

Questioner: Clear, O Shaykh, may Allaah bless you. May Allaah reward you.

Shaykh: And you as well.

Questioner: As-Salaamu Alaykum.

Shaykh: Hayaakumullaah. Wa Alaykum as-Salaam

Translated By: Raha ibn Donald Batts
Question Posed On: 15 Rabi’ Ath-Thani 1434 H./Feb. 25, 2013 
Presented to you by Markaz Tawheed was-Sunnah in Durham, NC

Veiled sisters uploading their pictures on the internet – Shaykh Haamid ibn Al Khamis Al Junaibee

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Veiled sisters uploading their pictures on the internet
A warning from Shaykh Haamid ibn Al Khamis Al Junaibee
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[Watch the Video with English Captions Here]

 Question:

A questioner from France says: As salaamu alaikum, jazakaAllahu khrain O Shaykh. What is your view concerning the woman who places her picture wearing niqab, even though her face is covered, on the internet forums and other places? Keeping in mind, this is a fitna for the young men. May Allah bless you.

Shaykh Haamid ibn Al Khamis Al Junaibee:

You know, I don’t know—Subana Allah—some of the women, what do they want from this? What do they want by uploading these pictures, even those who upload their pictures in which they are wearing niqab, or a woman with her face covered, what does she want from this?

This is not done by someone with insight and wisdom and this is evidence of an ignorant way of thinking. What benefit is gained by uploading a picture of a woman wearing niqab, for example? And the evil is greater if she uploads a picture of herself. It is as though she is saying to them: “Look at me,” whether she is wearing niqab or not; along with the beautification or the eyes and other than that.

I say: My general advice to the women: Fear Allah O women, those who enter the internet forums and internet websites, and the social networking sites such as twitter and the other websites. Fear Allah. Whether addressing the men, or chatting with the men, uploading pictures, and going to great lengths in this matter. This is a great door to evil, the magnitude of it is only known to Allah.

And Allah knows the situation of these affairs based on these forums and websites, from the abundance of evil that occurs from some of the people due to these affairs; whether it is by the private messages, or by connecting through other means, or by sending emails, or other than that from the means that some men use to catch women.

And sometimes it occurs between a man who is religiously committed and a woman who is religiously committed. Fear Allah O daughters of the Muslims!!

By Allah, surely I know specific people, I know specific people, and I do not say this from the standpoint of mentioning stories and tales, but rather from the standpoint of inciting fear and alarm, this is the standpoint I am coming from. A woman and a man fell into fornication. Both of them were students of knowledge, both of them were students of knowledge. I know them specifically. We ask Allah for safety and security.

Thus beware, beware—may Allah bless you—beware beware! The person must stay far away from the doors of evil and he must make an escape from them; fleeing.

Whoever needs to connect with someone, whether it is for marriage, or engagement, the connection should occur from the females, from your family, your relatives, from this method. And do not open this door upon yourself! Because this door is a door of evil, such that if it is open it is not about to close except with great evil. We seek refuge in Allah. We ask Allah for safety and security.

Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
Translator’s note: The Shaykh has written tazkiyah from Shaykh Muhammad ibn Abdul Wahab Al Aqeel

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