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Is it permissible for a lady to pray to Allaah to be granted the death of a martyr? – Shaykh Saalih Muhammad al-Luhaydaan

Is it permissible for a lady to pray to Allaah to be granted the death of a martyr?

Q.​The questioner is asking is it permissible for a lady to pray to Allaah to be granted the death of a martyr?

A.​The shaykh (haafidhahullaah) said it is permissible for a female to request from Allaah (azza wa jall) to be granted the death of a martyr. It is not a condition that in order for a person to die as a martyr that they have to fight. For example, the Prophet (Sallaahu Alayhi wa Sallam) mentioned a female that dies during a labour, her death is the death of a martyr. The Prophet (Sallaahu alayhi wa Sallam) questioned the companions, who do you think is a martyr? They said that a person that dies whilst fighting. The Prophet (Sallaahu alayhi wa Sallam) responded by saying then that means the martyrs in my ummah are very few. That means the martyrs in my ummah are very few. Rather whoever dies trying to establish the word of Allaah to be the upmost throughout the earth then this person is a martyr. And the Prophet (Sallaahu Alayhi wa Sallam) continued… Whoever dies because of an illness in his stomach, he is a martyr. Then he continued… a female that dies during childbirth she is a martyr. The individual who dies while drowning he or she is a martyr. An individual who dies in a fire they are a martyr. An individual who dies because of a building or something collapsing upon them they likewise are martyrs. The shaykh mentioned (haafidhahullaahu ta’alaa) but these are individuals who died upon tawheed. An individual who dies whilst committing shirk would not be considered a martyr even if they died by one of these previously mentioned means.

Shaykh Saalih Muhammad al-Luhaydaan (May Allaah preserve him) (Kitaab-ut-Tawheed Class, Q&A Session 06-10-2012, Riyadh)

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The Nikah Has Many Benefits And Is A Protection From Fornication – Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan

The Nikah Has Many Benefits And Is A Protection From Fornication
Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan [Hafidhahullah]
النكاح فيه مصالح كثيرة و هو عصمة من الزنا – مقطع لفيضلة الشيخ العلامة صالح الفوزان (15/3/1434)

Translated by Abu ‘Abdullah Naasir Hussain [Hafidhahullah]

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The Nikah is from the ways of Allah with regard to his creation, between the children of Adam, male and female.

With it there are great benefits, from them: chastity of the two spouses, one to the other; to fulfill what is required from the husband towards his wife; the husband taking care of his wife; and protecting her. From it is also the fulfilling of the desires of both sexes and from it is having children. There are many benefits from Nikah

The most important thing is that it keeps you chaste from adultery, from fornication and the loss of lineage, and from the corruption of moral uprightness. There is the protection of one’s health.

As for adultery and fornication then their end place is in epidemics and in lethal illnesses, as is well-known.

وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا ٣٢

And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [i.e. anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him).

[Surah Al-'Isrā':32]

With it there is the loss of lineage, the spread of illnesses, the loss of modesty and chastity. With it there are great harms; fornication, we seek refuge with Allah, what an evil way. The harms of fornication are not limited.

With Nikah, there is a protection from fornication and from its harms, and all praises are due to Allah. Nikah produces offspring. As for fornication then it is a loss. The offspring from fornication have no father and no lineage, and we seek refuge with Allah. Lost… This is from the disadvantages of fornication.

He (Allah) didn’t say don’t fornicate, he said don’t come close to it, ‘don’t come near to it’, i.e. stay away from the means that lead to fornication. Such as: looking, the seclusion with a man, the traveling of the woman by herself, her showing off her beauty. These are means that lead to falling into fornication. Allah has not allowed them, he has prohibited them.

If there is leniency in these means then fornication will take place. If there is leniency in these means then fornication will take place, because the desires are present. Desires are present between men and women. If they sat together and mixed then fornication is close. Shaytaan is present, if a man secluded himself with a woman, then shaytaan is the third one amongst them.

They say you have bad thoughts and that you are pessimists. We are not pessimists, this is the reality. This is the reality and if these means that Allah has prohibited are violated, then fornication will occur, no doubt.

Even the righteous man, the religious one, there is a danger upon him from the woman. Especially if she was beautiful and he secluded himself with her or traveled with her or she joined him at work. Or if she sat with him in the classroom, or in an exam, or in meetings. Or if she sat with him on the television, or on the radio, as his colleague, i.e. a presenter next to him, and she is beautified and he is a youth. Far is Allah from all imperfections. Do you bring petrol next to fire? Petrol is by itself and the fire is by itself. You bring her next to him! This is like that; no it is worse than petrol and fire.

Desires… we seek refuge with Allah, desires are strong. So for this reason Allah (the Exalted, Most High), has placed barriers that prevent falling in to fornication. If they are preserved, fornication is lessened or cut-off. If they are lost, then fornication will occur without a doubt. No matter what, even if they are religious or modest, the children of Adam are not saved from fornication except by the means that prevent it.

Taken from the last class on the explanation of the book, Mukhtasar Zaadul Ma’aad.
Shaikh Salih al-Fawzan (حفظه الله تعالى).
Sunday, 15th Rabee’ Al-Awwal 1434.
Translated by Abu ‘Abdullah Naasir Hussain [Hafidhahullah].

What a Muslim does with death of his close relative who is a Mushrik? – Shaykh Al-Albaani

The Ahadeeth of Tawheed from the Silsilah Ahadeeth As-Saheehah of Shaykh Al-Albaani
Chapters of Tawheed and the Shahadtayn Part 14
Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

37- What a Muslim does with his close relative who is a Mushrik And Abu Talib died upon Shirk

161- The Messenger of Allaah said to Ali bin Abu Ta lib: ‘Go and bury your father.’ He said; ‘No, I won’t bury him, because he died as a Mushrik.’

The Messenger said to him: ‘Go and bury him, and do n’t speak to anyone until you come to me. ‘I came to him and I had signs of dirt and dust upon me. He ordered me to wash, so I washed and he supplicated for me with supplications which would not please me to exchange anything for them on the face of this earth.

From the benefits of the hadeeth:

1. That it is permissible for a Muslim to take the responsibilities of burying his close Mushrik relative. This does not negate his hate for his relative’s shirk. Do you not see that ‘Alee refused to bury his father for the first time. Whereby, he said: ‘he died as a mushrik ‘ thinking that if he buried him then this would enter into being in alliance with his father which is pro hibited. Like the saying of Allaah Ta’ala: <<Take not as friends the people who incurred the Wrath of Allaah >>

When the Messenger ordered him again to bury his father he hastened to fulfill the Messenger’s order. And he left that which seemed to be correct to him the first time. It is also from obedience, that a person leaves his own opinion for the command of his Prophet – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam.

It appears to me that the son burying his mushrik father or his mother is the last of what the son possesses of good companionship wit h his mushrik father in this world. As for after the burial then it is not allowed for him to pray for him, nor seek forgiveness for him, this is due to the clear statement of Allaah Ta’ala: << It is not proper for the Prophet and those who believe to ask Allaah’s Forgiveness for the Mushrikeen even though they be of kin >>

So, if this is the case, what is the situation of t he one who supplicates for mercy and forgiveness on the pages of newspapers and magazines for some of the kuffar , announcing their deaths, for a small amount of dirhams !

The one who is concerned for his hereafter should fear Allaah.

2- It is not legislated for him to wash the unbeliever, nor should he shroud him. And nor should he pray upon him even if he is a close relative, since, the Prophet – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam did not order Alee to do so. If this had been permissible, the Prophet – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam would have mentioned it, since delaying the explanation of an order when there is a need for it, is not permissible. This is the Madhab of the Hambalees and other than them.

3- It is not legislated for the relatives of that Mushrik to follow the funeral procession. Because the Prophet – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam did not do this for his uncle. His uncle was the kindest and the most compassionate of the people to him. Even to the extent that the Prophet supplicated to Allaah for him, whereby his uncle’s punishment will be the least in the Hellfire, as has been previously explained.

And in all of this there is a lesson for those peop le who have been deceived by their ancestry, but they do not do any thing for their hereafter with their Lord, and Allaah the Great spoke the truth when He said: << There will be no kinship among them that Day, nor will they ask of one another. >>

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The Advice of Shaykh Al-Albaanee to Women who act like men

Question:

O our Shaykh, we have heard that some of the women present within some of the universities, schools, and colleges or some of the women who deliver lectures, (give) lessons or even recite the Qur’aan specifically on the morning broadcasts (we have heard that) these women’s husbands are never able to enjoy them because they are Mutarajjilaat (i.e. they imitate men or are masculine). We would like some clarity from you as it relates to this question.

Answer:

The principle as it relates to this issue is a poor upbringing. From the reasons for the poor upbringing is the corruption of the society and corruption of the curriculums which the education of the men and women or male and female youth is predicated upon their foundation. That is because the female students in the schools, I am almost certain, have not heard the likes of his (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) statement:

لعن الله الرَجُلة من النساء

“May Allaah curse the manly women.”

Likewise, the other Hadeeth which ‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) narrated saying: “Allaah’s Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) cursed the men who resemble women and the women who resemble men.” I believe that the female students who graduate from the high schools or from that which is above that, then likes of this Hadeeth or that Hadeeth (the first one) has not crossed their ears. And if it be that either of them has crossed their ears on any day, then it is from that which goes in one ear and out of the other ear. Because the curriculums which are taught or the lessons which are given on the basis of them do not allow the teacher, even if she may be religious, to go over the likes of this subject.

It is known within the legislation, and according to the people who have knowledge regarding it, that the basic principle with the man is that he goes out of his home to work for the benefit of his family and his children. On the contrary, the basic principle regarding the woman is that she remains sheltered within her house and that she does not go out of it acting in accordance with the statement of her Lord, the Blessed and High:

وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَى

“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance…” (Al-Ahzaab 33:33)

So when the woman came to be like the man; going out in the morning, and returning in the evening; then she came to be, in that, similar to the man whether she knows it or not and whether she realizes it or not.

Due to this, we have not returned in these later times to seeing the adolescent virgin girls who are ashamed to let their vision fall upon a man. Rather, she, from the severity of her modesty, would cast her vision to the ground to look at her footsteps while she is walking. We have not returned to seeing this young lady who, the likes of her, was well known; even during the times of pre-Islamic ignorance, not to mention during the era of the early, radiant, pure Al-Islaam. In this vein, there has come within the Saheeh, in description of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) that he: “Was shyer than a virgin within her dwelling.”

This virgin to whom the leader of mankind (alayhis-salatu was-salaam) has been compared in his shyness, we have not returned to hearing about her in this time of ours. That is because in most instances the women resemble the men. There is no doubt that there are many reasons for this. From the most prominent of them, is the rule of the governments of the Kuffaar over many of the Islaamic lands, so that their habits, traditions, tastes, and their manners which are contrary to the upright disposition have spread therein. So the generations of people have inherited them and the male and female professors who claim to guide (the youth) have accepted them. All of these (people) have spread amongst this upcoming generation of young men and young ladies what they refer to as equality between women and men. So this is from the reasons from the spread of the scanty amount of modesty amongst the women which has made many of them to be masculine. From that in which there is no doubt is that the manliness of the woman makes her have a presumptive personality in front of her husband; perhaps raise her voice at him, and maybe she will humiliate him in front of some of his or her relatives (out of supposed) superiority on her part over her husband.

Where is this as it relates to that which has come in the farewell advice of the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) to the man regarding the women? This is substantiated by his (alayhis-Salaam) statement using a justification which is in complete opposition to the upbringing which we see in this present time. That is his (alayhis-Salaam) statement:

استوصوا بالنساء خيرًا ، فإنهن عوانٍ عندكم

“Treat the women well, for they are ‘awaan to you.”

The point of reference is that the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) when he ordered with good treatment to the women in this Hadeeth, he (alayhis-Salaam) justified that by his statement:

فإنهن عوانٍ عندكم

“…for they are ‘awaan to you.”

Meaning, they are like slaves. The slave is not able to do anything with his master. Likewise, is the Muslim woman who conducts herself with the correct Islaamic manners. She is, with her husband, like a slave.

Due to this, he (alayhis-Salaam) feared for the men to be excessive, in this befitting description, towards the women and thus wield authority over them, compelling them, and oppressing them. For this reason he ordered with good treatment towards the women and me mentioned a reason for that; and that (reason) is his statement:

فإنهن عوانٍ عندكم

“…for they are ‘awaan to you.”

The women today have become such that the men are not in need of advice regarding them. Rather, the affair has changed and become such that the women are in need of being advised to treat the men well because they have become independent in their jobs and in their liberties. We often hear from some of them: “There is no difference therein between me and my husband. He is a spouse and I am a spouse. He is a partner and I am a partner with him in life.”

So it is upon the Muslim women who cling to their religion that if they are tried with anything from mixing with this society, that they try to save themselves from being affected by anything from this filth which many of the women have fallen into because of what we have mentioned from corruption in the upbringing and corruption of the society. This is a reminder and the reminder benefits the believer. As-Salaamu Alaykum.

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May Allaah reward you with good, wa Alaykum As-Salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh.


How to interact with your wife – Shaykh Salih ibn Abdul Aziz Aali Shaykh

How to interact with your wife
by Shaykh Salih ibn Abdul Aziz Aali Shaykh

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Shaykh Salih ibn Abdul Aziz Aali Shaykh may Allah preserve him said:

The third category: The man interaction with his wife

Allah جل وعلا has obligated upon the man similar to that which He has obligated upon the woman. Allah جل وعلا said:

وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ [البقرة:228

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]

Allah جل وعلا has made the rights of the man primary, but He has given the woman rights just has He has given the man rights. Allah جل وعلا said in this verse:

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.

The Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ gave many advices concerning the women.

There are some people who marry and they do not learn the regulations concerning social interactions with the wife. How should he talk to her? How should he request from her? What are the obligations that the wife must perform?

On the contrary, he only interacts with her based upon his sheer desires. He treats her according to his wishes and sometimes based upon his manhood and based upon his strength. And he does not do that which is Islamic binding upon him.  He does not learn the legislated regulations concerning social interaction and dealing with the wife.

And how beautiful is the statement of Ibn Abbass رضي الله عنهما concerning this verse!  He said concerning the statement of Allah جل وعلا:

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.

He said: ‘Verily I do not like to demand all of my rights from my wife such that it will become obligatory upon me to give her all of her rights that she requests from me.

And also he used to order with beautification; meaning the man beautifying himself for his wife.

He said:

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.

Therefore if the man requests that his wife beautify herself for him, and that she remove any foul odor and that she is beautified when with him; then likewise it is obligatory upon him to interact with her with that which Allah جل وعلا has made obligatory.

Look at the condition of the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ with his wives when they request maintenance from him. He said to them kind gentle words that preoccupied for a period of time until Allah جل وعلا reveal verses concerning this in Soorah Al Ahzab.

In many instances the man’s interaction with his wife is according to desires and according to the desires of manhood.

But some of the people are diligent upon interacting with their family according to the appropriate legislation, and this is what is obligatory so this is what we wanted to point out because this is a type of interaction that many people are void of.

On the other extreme as it relates to interacting with the wives, some people believe that good interaction is to give his wife free rein. And he fulfills every desire that the woman has without looking to see if that which she requested is permissible or impermissible, and without looking to see if it is something she has a right to do or not. It is something that will be good for her or is it something that will not be good for her? Is there a benefit for her it that or not?

(The men) are negligent in this affair to the extent that the women conduct themselves freeing like they are the men.

No doubt that these are two images on opposite sides of the spectrum.

  • The one who is harsh and cruel
  • The one who gives his wife free rein and it is as though his wife has become the man.

And the resolution for that, rather the balance and the guidelines are for the person to strive to be with his wife according to the guidelines of the legislation.

Allah جل وعلا ordered that the women should be given their rights; likewise He ordered that the man should be given their rights. And the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ, from the final advices he gave during his life, was advice concerning the rights of the women.

During his sermon on the day of Arafat, during his tremendous sermon which he bided farewell to the people he said: ‘Be kind to the women because verily they are in your trust.’ Meaning like captives

But this does not mean that he leaves the affairs up to her to do however she wants, and it does not mean that the person is negligent concerning the commands of Allah; rather he should be in accordance with that which Allah جل وعلا wants.

The man requests things from his wife but it is befitting that his interactions with his wife be in accordance with the statement of Ibn Abbass رضي الله عنهما.

He said I do not like to demand all of my rights from my wife such that it will become obligatory upon me to give her all of her rights that she requests from me.

On the other hand, there is the interaction of the wife with her husband. Allah has given the man a degree over the woman. He said:

But men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]

Allah جل وعلا gave man a preference based upon him providing maintenance. Thus He gave him preference in that which is specific to the man; thus man is the one responsible for providing maintenance and he is responsible for commanding the good and forbidding the wrong.

And it is upon the wife to obey the husband in that which is obedience to Allah, she should obey him in that which is correct and she should not disobey him.

Such that no one he hates should enter his home and she should not leave his home unless he is in agreement. And if the wife preserves the husband’s rights upon her then she has performed her obligations.

And it appears in an authentic narration: “If the woman prays her five daily prayers, and fast (the month of Ramadan) and obey her husband, then it will be said to her, ‘enter paradise from any door you choose.’”

And there is no doubt the it is a requirement for the woman to obey her husband and it is an obligation upon her as it relates to her interaction with her husband that she is obedient and pleased and she should be the one who concedes and yields. And she should not make the man the one who submits to her, and the one who is submissive to her, because in this action there is corruption.

And the judges have spoken about the affair of the husband obeying his wife and what occurs when some of the women rule their husbands. The end result is that the woman is not content with her husband, the one who obeys her, and has some good interactions with her; rather she makes him obey her in everything that she desires. Thus the end result is that she hates him, because the woman by her nature needs someone who will take care of her. So if the man takes responsibility for her and interacts with her according to the commands of Allah جل وعلا then both of them will have a good result.

Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
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There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to The Creator

Bismillaah Al-Hamdulillaah wa salatu wa salaamu ‘ala rasulullaah
Amma ba’d

The Precedence and Priority that obedience to Allaah has over the obedience to the creation

To reinforce the precedence and priority that obedience to Allaah (subhanahu wa ta’aala) has over the obedience to the creation, ponder upon the following ahadeeth of the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam):

La ta’aata lil makhluk fi ma’seeyit al-Khaaliq (which means “there is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to The Creator.”)

“Inna ma ta’aa fil ma’roof.” (Obedience is only in the matters ordained by Allaah).

The righteous scholars have explained that the right of The Creator takes precedence over the rights of the creation.

So when any one from the creation enjoins on you to commit an act of disobedience, then obedience to them in that specific matter is actually disobedience to Allaah, whereas disobedience to them in that specific matter is obedience to Allaah. Allaah (subhanahu wa ta’aala) says: …Help you one another in Al-Birr and At-Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression… (Al-Ma`idah 5:2)

Regarding the parents, Allaah (subhanahu wa ta’aala) says:

And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years. Give thanks to Me and to your parents; unto Me is the final destination. (Luqman 31:14)

A man once asked the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam):

“O Messenger of Allaah, who has the most right amongst people to my good companionship?” He (salallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) replied: “Your mother.” The man said: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man said: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man said: “Then who?” He replied: “Your father.”

[Al-Bukhaaree (no. 5971), Muslim (no. 201) and Ibn Maajah (no. 2706)]

The right of the parents upon their children is so great that Allaah often mentions obedience to parents immediately after worshipping Allaah alone. Yet even if your mother or father enjoins on you to commit an act of disobedience, then obedience to them in that specific matter is actually disobedience to Allaah, whereas disobedience to them in that specific matter is obedience to Allaah. So if your parents command you to worship other than Allaah, or to attend the gatherings of the people of bid’ah (Sufis, Shee’a, Tableeghis, Ikhwanul Muslimeen, Khawarij, Hizb Tahreer, etc…), or to sing anasheed, or to hand them a can of beer or a pack of cigarettes, then there is no obedience to them in these matters.

Allaah says: But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. (Luqman 31:15)

La ta’aata lil makhluk fi ma’seeyit al-Khaaliq (which means “there is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to The Creator.”)

This also includes the wife in relation to her husband. The husband’s right over his wife is so great that the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said,

“It is not right that any human being should prostrate to another being. And if it were right for a human being to prostrate to another human being, I would have ordered the woman to prostrate to her husband due to the greatness of his right upon her.”

Yet if the husband commands the wife to disobey Allaah, such as the husband’s command to his wife to break her obligatory fast in Ramadan to have sexual relations with him,* or to remove her hijaab, or to engage in haram acts or speech, then in these particular cases obedience to him is disobedience to Allaah, as the scholars have explained.

La ta’aata lil makhluk fi ma’seeyit al-Khaaliq (which means “there is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to The Creator.”)

If a “scholar” (or imam of your masjid) advises you to disobey Allaah and His Messenger (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) by telling you or giving you “permission” to call on other than Allaah, or say that Allaah in His Self is “everywhere,” or rebel/speak ill of the Muslim ruler, or celebrate the Prophet’s birthday, or engage in ribaa (interest, usury), then in these particular cases obedience to that “scholar” is disobedience to Allaah.

Allaah says: They (Jews and Christians) took their rabbis and their monks to be their lords besides Allaah… (At-Tawbah 9:31)

The Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) explained:

They (rabbis and monks) prohibited the allowed for them (Christians and Jews) and allowed the prohibited, and they (Christians and Jews) obeyed them. This is how they worshipped them.

[Calling on other than Allaah is Kufr, knowingly denying Allaah's 'Uluw is kufr, rebelling against/speaking ill of the Muslim ruler is the bid'ah of the Khawaarij and Ikhwanul Muslimeen and Hizb at-Tahreer, celebrating the Prophet's birthday is bid'ah that sometimes is accompanied by kufr as the 'ulamma have explained, and ribaa is from the seven destructive Kabaair, while declaring ribaa "halal" upon knowledge of its prohibition in the Qur`an and Sunnah is Kufr. Aoodhoobillaah!]

La ta’aata lil makhluk fi ma’seeyit al-Khaaliq (which means “there is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to The Creator.”)

Likewise, with the Muslim ruler, the only time you may not obey the Muslim ruler is if he orders disobedience. As we learned from Kitab at-Tawheed class – chapter of Ruling by other than Allaah – regarding Allaah’s ayah: O you who believe! Obey Allaah and obey the Messenger (Muhammad, salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam), and those of you (Muslims) who are in authority… (An-Nisa 4:59) The word atee’u (obey) precedes “Allaah” and “the Messenger,” but not “those in authority”, because the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) could not order to do haram, whereas it’s possible that a ruler could. So although it is obligatory to obey the Muslim ruler, you may not obey him in that particular matter in which he orders disobedience.

La ta’aata lil makhluk fi ma’seeyit al-Khaaliq (which means “there is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to The Creator.”)

May Allaah grant us akhlaaq pleasing to Him.

Note: *(as opposed to the optional fast, which scholars have said she should break if he asks)

Taken from: http://www.salafitalk.net/st/viewmessages.cfm?forum=8&topic=10613

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Guidelines on Children’s Clothes with Pictures and on Dolls – Sheikh Muhammad Naasir-ud-Deen Al-Albaanee (may Allah have mercy on him)

Guidelines on Children’s Clothes with Pictures and on Dolls
Sheikh Muhammad Naasir-ud-Deen Al-Albaanee (may Allah have mercy on him)
by SalafiEvents.com

Question:

Here, one of the sisters asks: What is the ruling on clothing children with clothes which contains pictures of things which have souls if it is not possible to erase these pictures from them, because by erasing them (the pictures), the garment is spoiled?

So, the Sheikh replied:

Answer:

Without doubt, it has to be said, that for the likes of this question, the purchasing of the garment which is illustrated with pictures, has to have definitely already occurred by mistake or negligence from the father or mother who bought (it), because the fundamental principle is that it is not appropriate for the Muslims that they purchase clothes which have pictures on them. However, a person may be unaware, and he may be negligent, and they may forget…and he may forget and he may purchase a garment, (and) after he returns with it to his house it becomes clear to him that there is a full prohibited picture on it. So, in this situation also, this question (above) is not to be found. It is imperative that another introduction precede it (this question), and it is…the changing of the garment for another garment from the place where it was purchased from, (whereby this new garment) does not have on it a prohibited picture. So if… so if it was not possible for the father or the mother to change it (for another garment), then here in the third stage (of this situation) this question comes about.

So, I remind about these two introductions (which should be placed before the question) because the majority of the people are heedless when they proceed to the markets. They buy everyday necessities (which are made) from different materials, from them which are the likes of those things which are spread out (carpets, rugs, mats etc.) and blankets or what resembles that, those (things) which are predominantly illustrated with pictures and decorated. And they do not pay any attention to them at all (these materials which have pictures) and they buy them with the excuse that these materials are not respected (because they are sat on, slept on etc.) and are not hung up. So, we say: It is imperative upon the Muslims that they be those who are awake (and) not those who are asleep, and that they pay attention to the plot of the disbelievers, those who are invading them in the midst of their own house with diverse ways – and that which is from them (these ways) are these clothes which are illustrated with pictures.And it (this matter) is mentioned bit by bit, specifically if the people are in need of it. And in a manner more specific when they are made heedless through some of the erroneous guidelines, through some of the fataawa (religious edicts) which are not based upon authentic proof, like (the fataawa for) these dolls and children’s toys which cram up the markets and the mothers go and buy for the boys and girls many a thing from these amusements in the name of them (being) toys for children or toys for girls.

So, it is imperative that we remember something here, and it is that the toys (i.e. dolls) which are allowed to be used for the small children… rather I say for girls only and not for the males from the children, that there is not out there any proof for the permissibility (of these toys/dolls) except the hadeeth of ‘Aaishah (may Allah be pleased with her) which says that she used to send for the daughters from the daughters of her neighbours to come to her and she would play with them with girls’ toys and the Messenger (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa ‘ala aalihi wa sallam) would help her in that and consent to her (doing that) and he would not rebuke her. Rather, indeed he (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa ‘ala aalihi wa sallam) [entered upon her] one time and saw amongst her toys a horse with two wings. So he (‘alaihi salaam) said to ‘Aaishah, playing about with her: ‘A horse which has two wings?!’ She said: ‘O’ Messenger of Allah, have you not heard’ or ‘has it not reached you that the horse of Sulaymaan (‘alaihi salaam) had wings?’ and he (‘alaihi salaatu wa salaam) laughed and he affirmed her in that. This hadeeth is the proof which makes it possible for us to rely upon it in allowing girl’s toys (i.e. dolls) with images and sculptured forms.

However, there is a principle of fiqh (jurisprudence) out there that every text which comes and carries within its folds a ruling which is an exception from the general proofs, then this ruling is halted at and it is not increased upon because it is against the fundamental principle. And that which was like that, i.e. that which was against the fundamental principle, then an analogy (qiyaas) is not made from that which was irregular to the fundamental principle, (and) because that which was against (an) analogy (being made with it), cannot (then) be used to make (a further) analogy based upon it, and indeed it is but connected (back) to the general principle.

If this meaning is clear to all, inshaa’Allah, then at this time we say: The toys which Sayyidah ‘Aaishah (may Allah be pleased with her) [had], they were from that type which some of the other women engaged in, in diverting the attention of their children away from requesting food and drink in the state of them fasting. And indeed they (the women) used to take for them images from coloured wool, from cotton and give them to those who were fasting from the youngsters, diverting their attention away from requesting food and drink. This type from the images, this type from the toys of the children, it was a local (type of image and toy) and it was a domestic [i.e. in the house] (type of image and toy), and it was not imported from outside the Islamic households, let alone being imported from the lands of disbelief and misguidance which manufacture toys and figures which are in accordance with their tastes, with their habits and their customs, and which do not agree in any way whatsoever with the habits of the Muslims and their customs and the rulings of their share ‘ah. And from that which shows you this, is what you see in these (imported) images, from the (imported) figures (which) sometimes are small (in size) and sometimes are big (in size), until (even) a young girl (who) can just about hold the doll and (yet) it is the same length as her and the same width as her and it has blond hair and clipped (in its hair) from the sides like the male children. And it (the imported doll) has a garment which are shorts i.e. the garment which has no legs to it, and it has the short garment which reveals the thighs (of the dolls). These sculptured forms contain the customs of those disbelievers and their habits and their mannerisms.

So, if we entered these sculptured forms into our houses, then first that (shows) that we are pleased with what they contain (i.e. from the customs, habits and mannerisms of those who made them)…firstly…, and secondly, that we are teaching our children (those) mannerisms and that we are bringing them up since their tender age upon finding pleasant these objects which are mutually contradictory to the Islamic clothing, and in particular that which is related to the men. And due to this, it is imperative upon us to beware of these imported clothes from the lands of disbelief with their [different] types and their (different) forms and their (different) purposes, and from that are the clothes of young children.

So we, with great sorrow, every time we enter a house we find the children of our brothers, those who adhere – according to our claim – to the Book of our Lord and the Sunnah of our Prophet, despite all of that, we find that the children have been dressed in clothes which have pictures on them and lewd pictures. Then, this calamity has spread until we have begun to clothe our youths who have passed the age of responsibility with shirts which have pictures on the back and on the front. And (when) sometimes we pray the Friday prayer, there comes to the Friday prayer, as you know, the one who does not pray except on the day of Friday, and most of his life he spends in play and amusement and despite that he (stills) attends the Friday prayer. So, we see him praying and behind him i.e. on the back of his shirt, there is a picture of a woman with her hair flowing and visible from her is her arm and her neck and the likes of that, and we face this picture (whilst praying).

These strange acts of heedlessness from the Muslims, I think that that which helps in spreading these shameful things and these Islamic violations is the saying that the prohibited images are indeed only but firstly, the three- dimensional images which have a shadow. As for that which is not three- dimensional, then these they claim are permissible and allowed and especially if they were not formed by the hand but were rather but formed with a photo camera or a printer. So, these are from the whisperings of shaytaan which he has thrown amongst humanity in this time and beautified for them (the fact) that there is nothing wrong with them.

So, it is upon the Muslims therefore, to stay away from buying any type from the types of clothes which have these pictures on them due to what we have mentioned earlier.

And in conclusion I say in response to that question (asked above): If the affair revolves around scraping off (the picture from) the garment and wasting the benefit from it and around seeking pleasure from it (the garment) despite its obvious and hidden shortcomings…I say if…., then seeking benefit (from it) is permissible. However, I believe that the believing woman and the one who with her capability is truly the mistress of the house, (should) erase the traces of that picture by scraping (it) off and with embroidery whereby the head is wiped out because the affair is as he (‘alaihi as salaam) said:

‘Indeed, the picture is but the head’.

So, if the head is wiped out, the picture is wiped out, even if some of its traces remain. And with this has the answer been completed inshaa’Allah.

Taken from the cassette entitled: Tawjeehaat Lil-Mar’atil- Muslimah (guidelines for the Muslim woman) of Sheikh Muhammad Naasir-ud-Deen Al-Albaanee (may Allah have mercy on him).

Translated by: Abu Yusuf, Sagheer Ibn ‘Abdir-Rasheed Al-Kashmeeree

http://salafipress.wordpress.com/2012/02/08/guidelines-on-childrens-clothes-with-pictures-and-on-dolls/

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Placing parents in a rest home / Old age home – Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan

Placing parents in a Rest home / Old age home
Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan 

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Shaykh Fawzan: Keeping the ties of kinship has it affects in this life and the next. Thus if keeping the ties of kinship is from the reasons that extend the lifespan and increase the provision, then it is even more befitting to honor the parents because they are the closest of all the relatives. Therefore honoring the parents is a reason for Allah to extend your lifespan and increase your lifespan. And being undutiful to the parents is a reason for the lifespan to be shortened and a reason for the provision to be restricted. Just as honoring the parents is a reason for the lifespan to be extended and the provision to be increased. And the reward or punishment is from the same category as the action which was performed.

وَلَا تُجْزَوْنَ إِلَّا مَا كُنْتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ

Nor will you be requited anything except that which you used to do

(Soorah Yasin 36:54)

What do you think about what has now appeared, unfortunately, in the Muslim community when the parents become elderly they are thrown in a convalescent home, or an old folk’s home as it is called. The child rids himself of them by placing his parents or one of his parents in an old folk’s home.

It is as though they are not their children; rather it is as though they are the parents of those who work at the old folk’s home.

Subhana Allah! Is this an animal or a person? There is no might or power except with Allah! This is the greatest form of disrespect.        This would not be done by a person who has in their heart fear of Allah the Exalted.

How would you feel if your child did this to you?! When you age and become sick they take you and place you in a convalescent home, an old folk’s home. How would you feel? How angry would you be at them? And what would be the sin that he; your child, would incur? Why then do you demand the rights that are due to you but you do not want to give the rights which are required from you?!

Thus every Muslim must have taqwa of Allah. Disrespecting the parents has become widespread during this time, the hearts have hardened, and the relatives have become estranged.

And the customs of our enemies from the western lands and the disbelievers have come upon us; those who don’t have families or homes, except for a home that resembles the home of an animal. They get a home and they live alone or they live with dogs. As for them living with their parents or with their children, or with their brothers then no, this does not exist in most of the disbelieving lands.

Now some of the Muslims wish to imitate them; unfortunately. Thus they wish to throw their parents or one of their parents into the old folk’s home and to rid themselves of them.

And if he has some type of sentiment then perhaps he will come visit them on the Eid and give them salaams, merely visiting them. Or some days he will pass by and give them salaams. And he considers this to be sufficient in fulfilling his parents’ rights upon him.

Thus it is upon the Muslim to be mindful and to have tawqa of Allah; and he should understand that what he does to others will be done to him. And he will be taken to account for his actions. And he should not place anything before showing kindness to his parents except the obedience of Allah. For the one who desires a reward and recompense then do not place any action before kindness to the parents except for the rights of Allah the Exalted.

And with this; we ask Allah the Exalted by His beautiful Names and lofty Attributes to rectify the children and the offspring of the Muslims. And we ask Him to return the Muslims to the practice of Islam in the desired manner. And we ask Him to make the Muslims, families, who love each other and are content with one another and homes of righteousness. And we ask Him to make the Muslims far away from resembling the disbelievers and the hypocrites, and those who have destroyed and shattered the ties of kinship thus becoming like animals or even more astray. And there is no might or power except with Allah.

May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon our Prophet, and his family and his companions.

Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
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The Honeymoon should be Continuous – Shaikh Uthaymin

The Honeymoon should be Continuous
By Sheikh Uthaymin

Sheikh Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, said

 Some of the people say that it is possible to take from the statement of the messenger of Allah peace and blessings are upon him, “so that you can taste his honey and he can taste your honey”, that we can take what is called a honeymoon so is this correct?

[Translator’s Footnote: Originally "honeymoon" simply described the period just after the wedding when things are at their sweetest; it is assumed to wane in a month. (Wikipedia)]

Yes this is correct. But the honey is not just for a month if you remain with the woman; rather the honey will be continuous not just for a month.

As for traveling during this month to lands that are not befitting to be traveled to then this is a waste of money. And then we hear about some of the people who travel to outside countries and they go to swimming pools, night clubs, and theaters, and his wife is uncovered, revealing her head, chest and arms, and so on and so forth; and with Allah refuge is sought.

This only occurs from someone who has changed the favor of Allah into ingratitude; rather the reward for this blessing is for the person to increase in thanking Allah and to live with his family in a good manner.

But what is the ruling on the one who says, ‘instead of this I will go with my wife to umrah, (for the honeymoon)?

We say this is good, but it is not good. Because it is obvious that the origin of this is taken from the non Muslims; we did not know of this during the time of the previous scholars or during the time of the pious predecessors and none of the people of knowledge spoke about doing this, therefore this has been obtained from the non Muslims; this is one angle.

From another angle, I fear that if a long time passes by and the people are making marriage a legitimate reason for making umrah then it will be said, it is the Sunnah for everyone who gets married to make umrah. Therefore we would have invented for an act of worship, a reason that has not been legislated, and this is a problem. Because if a long time passes the condition of the people will change and they will forget the beginning.

For this reason we say, have the honeymoon in your room, in your home and make the honeymoon forever not one month; and the praises belong to Allah for wellbeing.

Translated by Rasheed Barbee

http://sahab.net/forums/showthread.php?t=381402

Taken fromhttp://mtws.posterous.com/the-honeymoon-should-be-continuous

A Severe Warning Against Wedding Pictures and Video Tapes – Shaykh Uthaymeen

Wedding Pictures
A warning from Shaykh Uthaymeen

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O slaves of Allah verily we have been plagued for some time now by a great tribulation done by some people whom Allah has favored with marriage. And this is their taking pictures of the wedding party; pictures with the camera and perhaps with tapes which can be placed in the television and these are the video tapes. This is the affliction which we have been plagued with. And I do not know the intent of these people.

Do they do this in order to increase the love between the husband and his wife? Or do they do this because that is more pleasing to the wife from the husband? Or do they do this to announce the wedding? Or do they do this because it draws them closer to Allah the Exalted? Or do they do this because it is ingratitude to Allah for this favor?

None of these worldly and religious benefits are obtained by way of this reprehensible impermissible action. Rather the only thing that is obtained from this is exposing their disobedience to Allah the Exalted, and removing the veil of shyness from the husband and the wife, and from the community of women.

These pictures which are taken will be exposed for the onlookers anytime they want to look at them. Does it please you to expose your women in front of the immoral people? Does it please you to expose your women in front of the people every time someone wants to show your sister’s face, or your daughter’s face, or your wife’s face? Does that please you O believers?

Do you have jealousy? Do you have belief in Allah? Do you fear Allah’s punishment? Do you not fear that the favor that was sent upon you will be changed into a punishment? Do you not fear the Creator of the earth and the heavens? Are you not afraid that you will be united with the enemies of Allah from the disbelievers and those who resemble them? Because the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم  said:

مَنْ تَشَبَّهَ بِقَوْمٍ فَهُوَ مِنْهُمْ

Whoever resembles a people then he is from them.

Are you pleased for the husband and wife to be punished through hatred and animosity between the two of them until the family bond dissolves? All of these affairs are possible to occur even if we are given respite while opening disobeying our Lord. This is only respite from Allah the Exalted. (And the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم  said:)

إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَيُمْلِي لِلظَّالِمِ ، حَتَّى إِذَا أَخَذَهُ لَمْ يُفْلِتْهُ

Verily Allah grants the oppressor respite until He seizes him He does not release him.

And the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم recited:

وَكَذَلِكَ أَخْذُ رَبِّكَ إِذَا أَخَذَ الْقُرَى وَهِيَ ظَالِمَةٌ إِنَّ أَخْذَهُ أَلِيمٌ شَدِيدٌ

And thus is the seizure of your Lord when He seizes the cities while they are committing wrong. Indeed, His seizure is painful and severe. (Soorah Hud 11:102)

O people think, and use your intelligence concerning this affair. What is the result, what are its benefits, what are its harms? Verily Allah has given you intellects He did not make you like animals who do not know what is being done to them. They are driven to their place of slaughter and it goes submissively, and it is taken to pasture so it goes submissively.

You have intellects, with your intellects you perceive that which is beneficial and that which is harmful. And Allah has perfected His favor upon you by sending down upon you His Book and by what He revealed to His Messenger Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم. This affair is horrid. This affair is known by the legislation, known by the intellect, perceived by the senses. It is not hidden from anyone except the one whom Allah has erased away the light of his insight and diminished the jealous from his heart and decreased the religion from his heart.

O Muslims, O you who have jealousy, reflect upon this affair which your scholars have prohibited you from. Do not allow this blessing to sweep you into an abyss. This affair is evil, this affair is haram, and this affair is a prelude to corruption, this affair gradually leads to haram enjoyment and pleasure. Because everyone who takes these pictures whether on video tapes or by camera, he is able to look and enjoy these pictures anytime he wants to look at them.

This issue is very clear. But where are those designated guardians those who have direct responsibility over these women. And where are the guardians over the general affairs, those who have the ability to discipline those who do this with a discipline that will act as a deterrent for them and others. It is upon us to be strong in the religion of Allah. And it is upon us to not be concerned with anyone other than Allah the Exalted. And it is upon us to establish the limits of Allah. And verily I swear that whoever establishes the limits of Allah, for the sake of Allah, according to what the laws of Allah requires then Allah will assist him against all of his enemies.

O believers, O designated guardians, O general guardians, verily it is upon us all to come together to eliminate this evil corrupt phenomenon. By Allah this corruption is not a light matter even if some of the people take it lightly. Enjoying the wedding only occurs by showing gratitude for the blessings of Allah and establishing the ordinances that the legislation allows and not going beyond them or exceeded the limits of Allah or His laws.

Allah the Exalted said:

وَلَوْ أَنَّ أَهْلَ الْقُرَى آمَنُوا وَاتَّقَوْا لَفَتَحْنَا عَلَيْهِمْ بَرَكَاتٍ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَلَكِنْ كَذَّبُوا فَأَخَذْنَاهُمْ بِمَا كَانُوا يَكْسِبُونَ * أَفَأَمِنَ أَهْلُ الْقُرَى أَنْ يَأْتِيَهُمْ بَأْسُنَا بَيَاتاً وَهُمْ نَائِمُونَ * أَوَأَمِنَ أَهْلُ الْقُرَى أَنْ يَأْتِيَهُمْ بَأْسُنَا ضُحىً وَهُمْ يَلْعَبُونَ * أَفَأَمِنُوا مَكْرَ اللَّهِ فَلا يَأْمَنُ مَكْرَ اللَّهِ إِلَّا الْقَوْمُ الْخَاسِرُونَ الأعراف:96-99

And if only the people of the cities had believed and feared Allah, We would have opened upon them blessings from the heaven and the earth; but they denied [the Messengers], so We seized them for what they were earning.”

Then, did the people of the cities feel secure from Our punishment coming to them at night while they were asleep?

Or did the people of the cities feel secure from Our punishment coming to them in the morning while they were at play?

Did they then feel secure against the plan of Allah? None feels secure from the plan of Allah except the people who are the losers. (Soorah Al A’raf: 7:96-99)

Verily it is upon us, the believers; a responsibility. We are not like those who disbelieve, and enjoy themselves and eat as cattle eat, while the fire is their destination. Verily it is upon us believers, those who thank Allah for favoring us with Imaan, there is a great responsibility upon us that we implement the laws of Allah. This is the freedom that is beneficial freedom not unrestricted freedom at the expense of others.

Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
http://mtws.posterous.com/wedding-pictures-a-warning-from-shaykh-uthaym

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