Shaking The Hand Of The Non-Muslim Woman Who Comes Seeking Da’Wah
Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadee (rahimahullaah)

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Question:

Is it permissible to shake the hand of the strange woman who comes for the purpose of accepting Islam; and if one does not shake her hand, then this may have the opposite effect, and she may think that she is (being) belittled; so what does the Muslim do in this situation?

Answer:

It is not permissible to shake her hand due to what At-Tirmidhee narrates in his Jaami’ on the authority of UmaymahbintRuqayqah; she said: Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ said:

“I do not shake hands with women.”

Likewise, due to that which Al-Bukhaaree narrated in his Saheeh on the authority of Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, who said about Allaah’s Messengerﷺ: “By Allaah, his hand never touched the hand of a woman.”

At-Tabaraanee narrated in his Mu’jam from Ma’qil ibn Yassaar, may Allaah be pleased with him, who said: Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ said:

“For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than to touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

What is understood is that this is not from the perspective of belittlement. However, it is a religious matter. Moreover, along with handshaking comes looking and speaking. So it is a must that things be predicated upon a proper foundation. I have mentioned the Hadeeth of Umaymah bint Ruqayqah; in it a woman said: “Will you not shake our hands O Messenger of Allaah, as you shake the hands of the men?” So he said:

“I do not shake the hands with women. My statement to one hundred women is like my statement to one woman.”

And the Prophet ﷺ would recite to them the verse which comes at the end of Soorah Al-Mumtahinah and then he would say to them:

“Are you upon this?”

And they would say: “Yes.”

Source: http://muqbel.net/fatwa.php?fatwa_id=2734

Translated By: Aboo Moosaa Raha ibn Donald Batts
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