Learn to overlook and Let personal and trivial issues go
All praise is due to Allah, and may exaltation and safety be granted to Muhammad, his family, his companions, and those who aid them. To proceed:
Two nights ago, Shaykh, Dr. Ahmad Bazmool, may Allah protect him from evil, gave a stern, yet, heart-warming advice to those in attendance at the annual “Muhammad b. Abdul-Wahhaab Educational Seminar in Makkah.”
His advice touched on the topic: “How Students Should Interact with One Another.” The point I want to highlight is when he mentioned to us about overlooking things and letting them go for the sake of Allah. He mentioned that we as students, [and others], must learn to overlook and let personal and trivial issues go.
He mentioned a story about one of our elder and noble scholars, Dr. Rabee’ al-Madkhalee, may Allah preserve him, and how people have approached him saying: “Shaykh, I used to speak ill of you and warn people to keep away from you, etc.” Shaykh Ahmad mentioned that Shaykh Rabee’ would simply say: “Have you repented [for what you believe you have done wrong]? Then the affair is finished.” He would then honor him as a guest as though nothing ever happened. That’s the Sunnah.
[Subtle Methodology Point]
Shaykh Ahmad also mentioned that overlooking things is related to personal matters, not religious ones. He mentioned a hadith about how men would approach the Messenger of Allah, may Allah exalt his mention and grant him safety, and hold him by the collar when requesting things, and he wouldn’t become angry. However, when Allah’s legislation was violated, he would become angry.
He (Shaykh Ahmad) also mentioned a narration of the great Imaam, al-Awzaa’ee [d. 157 AH], may Allah have mercy on him, wherein he did not greet a man, but instead told him: “If my issue with you was personal, I would have greeted you, however, I did not greet you due to religious matters you have violated.”
[Time is Ticking]
On the authority of Aboo Moosaa al-Ash’aree, may Allah be pleased with him, the Messenger of Allah, may Allah exalt his mention and grant him safety, said, “Allah looks over his slaves in the middle of night, in the middle Sha’baan, and he forgives all of His creation, except for polytheists and the those involved in disputes.” [Authenticated by Imam al-Albaanee, Saheeh Ibn Majah, #1390]
Noble reader, realize that the middle of Sh’abaan is rapidly approaching, so I encourage all my brothers and sisters to not be from those involved in personal disputes on such a blessed night. I encourage you to try your best, for the sake of Allah, in resolving any ongoing disputes with one another.
To conclude, I ask Allah, the Most High, to make us from those who are forgiving to our brothers and sisters, just as I ask Him to make our brothers and sisters forgiving to us. Indeed, He is All-Capable of answering our supplications.
And I emphasize at the end of this article that all praise is for Allah.